Post # 1
We are having a large bridal party and I am not sure how to seat the bridemaids boyfriends. Do I sit them at the main table with the rest of us? or seat my bridesmaids with their boyfriends at another table? or leave one empty seat at the boyfriends table for my friend to go back and forth?
The boyfriends don’t really know anyone at the wedding except us. So I have no idea where to seat them so they can be comfortable.
Thanks so much!
Post # 2
babylo0n: I honestly think the best people to ask would be your actual bridesmaids. I had this same issue so we did a sweetheart table and then let my bridesmaids sit with their SO’s or family (some of my bridesmaids I’ve known forever so I’m close with their family).
Post # 3
gelaine22: I’ve actually asked my BM, but they are unsure of what to do. They want to sit next to me and want to sit next their significant other too. It’s become more complicated than it should be. hah
Post # 4
babylo0n: ON past threads with this same question I’ve seen bees split half and half. Some say your bridesmaids’ SO’s are adults and should be able to sit alone. Others (like myself) say their SOs should be able to sit with them so they can enjoy themselves also. Yes, people are adults and can sit alone for a few hours but why should they have to? That was my reasoning for a sweetheart table. We were so busy during the wedding that we wouldnt have been able to sit and mingle much with our bridal party anyway.
Post # 5
babylo0n: I personally would hate to attend a wedding with my FI and have to sit at a table of strangers. 3/5 of my bridesmaids are married with families and the other two are bringing +1s. I’ve decided that we are just going to sit with family and they can sit with theirs. We also considered a sweetheart table but my thought was I can have a dinner alone with FI anytime so I’d rather sit with family that day.
Post # 6
I am a bridesmaid at my friend’so wedding in a few months and she’s letting us bridesmaids sit with our SOs (she’ll be at a different table with her parents, her siblinge and her FI’s parents and siblings). I am so happy she’s doing it this way because my FI doesn’t really know anyone and it would suck for him to sit on his own!
Post # 7
lucky_charm: Such a wonderful idea!!
WOw thank you ladies. I am so happy I asked. I would love to sit with our families and have a separate table for our bridal party and their significant others.
Post # 8
I’m having a similar problem, still a few months away for us, but I’m thinking I’ll seat them at the tables with their partner. We have 17 bm and gm so I think we’ll just sit with our families
Post # 9
Most of our bridal party is single, except the best man who is married. So it will just be his wife (who I’m not friends with), and whatever random dates anyone decides to bring. I didn’t want all the random people in the photos at the head table, fiance didn’t want a sweetheart table, our families are too big to all fit in one table, so I thought maybe we should just have the wife at the head table, but my fiance asked his best man and they would rather just be apart for just the meal than make a deal out of it. His wife is very outgoing though. We will either put all the plus 1s together in a table right next to the head table if there are enough, or just put his wife by my fiance’s family (who she knows). Honestly, the head table will sit up there for 20 minutes to eat and have a few pictures, and then once I’m off to great guests with the husband, I fully expect the bridal party to get up to hang with SO and friends.
Post # 10
This really depends on your friends and your preference. We had a traditional head table and seated the dates/significant others with other people that they knew, but the difference was that they all knew people at the wedding.
I like the idea of sitting with your families, though – it kind of cuts off the debate at its head! While having the head table was important to me, if this feels right for you guys, go for it!
Post # 11
FI and I are sitting with our immediate families, and our wedding parties and their dates are sitting at the two tables next to us. We are not having a head table.
Post # 12
we are being completely different – our Head/Top table will only be myself, my then husband (eeek) his best man and my MOH.
As my FI father passed away, and my father is not very confident we didnt want anyone to feel out of there comfort zone – we also didnt want the sides to look uneven – so we have sat our parents on tables with our siblings so they are all together and our bridesmaids/groomsmen are sat at tables with their partners.
To us it just made sense to have it that way so everyone was comfortable – it may be our day but the most important thing is that people feel relaxed and enjoy it
Post # 13
I sat my wedding parties +1s at a table together – or if they knew someone at the wedding I tried to sit them with those people. It all worked out find. Most people will generally find a way to mingle and get to know other people at their party and its just dinner.
Post # 14
Let them sit with their dates! If you don’t have room for a head table with dates (which I think is silly and awkward), either sit with your parents or have a sweetheart table. If you two sit alone no one can fight over you and you’ll have a chance to actually talk to either other and maybe get a bite to eat.
Post # 16
babylo0n: I am also into the wedding party table and do not care for a sweetheart table so I would handle it like this:
put the boyfriends together at a table close to the head. They can meet and greet and get chummy at the rehearsal dinner. Theyll survive!