Post # 1
Our wedding is rather small- about 50 guests total. I’m currently working on seating, and for the most part it’s easy as a lot of people just naturally go together. Not many of my fiance’s family is coming, just his mom, one of her sisters/sister’s husband, and his dad… And dad’s new wife… I wish I could sit them all together! I know they’d be good sports, but I also feel like I’m not a good hostess doing that. My parents, family, and their close friends will want to sit together, and I really don’t want to seperate them because everyone is traveling from far away and they don’t see each other often. I also don’t want to torture any of our friends by making them sit with our family. What should I do?! i feel like I have to either seperate people who want to sit together and have them sit with his family, or put them together. I’d rather have his family sit together… But is that awful to do?
Post # 3
I had the same situation with my wedding. I ended up sitting my husband’s mom with my parents and his dad and his new wife with some great family friends. It worked out just fine. My wedding was also a total of 56 people (including bridal party and vendors).
Post # 4
If they get along well enough don’t stress about it once you make your decision. My parents are divorced and can get along decently enough, esp in public so all I did was move my Dad and his 30 year old GF (had to sneak that in lol) to a table with some family members from his side/people he knows and I put my Mom with family from her side along with my sister/BIL and Niece. We had a sweetheart table.
Post # 5
Have you spoken to them to see how they would feel about the seating plan? They may be fine with sitting togteher.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Courtart: I sat mine together and found out 2 years later my mom ran her mouth and insulted/embarrassed my stepmother. They are being separated this time.
Post # 7
@julies1949: +1. I would just ask them outright, or have your FI ask since they’re his family.
I have 79 people on the guest list and since my dad and mom are incapable of being nice to each other, I plan to seat my mom with her family and seat my dad’s family with FI’s parents. It does mean splitting up some of FI’s family but I just asked FMIL about it and she said it was absolutely fine. So I definitely think asking is a good idea.
Post # 8
Thanks for all of the input 🙂 I wish he had more family coming so we could have two tables- one for mom’s side and one for dad’s side, but his dad has no one coming aside from him and his wife, and his mom has one sibling and their spouse… so seperate, not enough for even mom to have a table. We ended up asking them; his mom is fine with whatever works best for us, and his dad/new wife prefer to sit with FI’s mom and brothers… of course, one brother isn’t coming and the other is sitting with us at the head table! So we will be clearly giving his father the options of sitting with mom and her family, or with some of my family’s friends or my extended family. I have a feeling we’ll just mix them in, I know my family will understand 🙂 Divorce makes everything so tricky!