Post # 1
Hi bees, I have been engaged a little over a week now and I’m not sure where to start planning! We have decided that we most likely want the wedding to be on October 11th, 2015. We have a tentative venue for the ceremony and reception (but have not booked them yet) and are pretty sure of our guest list. As to everything else… what should I focus on? I’ve been looking at checklists on The Knot and Wedding Wire and they seem to think I shouldn’t really get started until January, but what about things like STDs and putting down deposits? Is there anything I should really be getting done right now, and if not, when do those early things start getting more urgent? I haven’t even started and planning a wedding is already stressing me out….
Post # 2
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
You have awhile so relax! If you have a venue picked out I recommend putting down a deposit on it as well as your photographer. It might also be worth looking into your dress as some dresses require quite a few months to be ordered and you don’t want to leave that to the last minute. Otherwise, you have some time! Focus on the guest list and numbers (which will dictate a lot in your budget), but your save the dates can wait a few more months. January seems like a good time to get the ball rolling on things like caterers and cakes and decorations, for now, spend some time just being engaged and figuring out the fun things like your colors and centerpieces and whether or not you want a theme 🙂
Post # 3
Worry about the bigger things and let the little things go for now. I would focus on ceremony/reception venue, photographer, dj, and in a few months catering & cake.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I’d put a deposit on anything you decide on long before the knot says so. Some venues book up 2 years in advance. Some popular vendors will have the same issue.
Post # 5
I would put money on a venue by a year out. Depending on the location they book up fast. Also, I would book the photographer that early too (they can only do one wedding a day). A lot of bees book DJs that early because like photographers they can only do one wedding a day (we just didn’t because we weren’t all that in to DJs).
You could start STDs now, but you don’t have to. If you have a lot of guests from out of town, the sooner they know the date and can start planning for it, the more likely they will be able to come. If not, there probably isn’t a huge rush.
Pretty much everything else can wait until 6 months before. You might want to start looking at dresses earlier, simply because the sooner you start the more options you will have, and the least rushed you will feel to pick a dress. Most designers can work in the 6 months time frame, but some do need more time. I starting looking about a year before my wedding, and the dress that ended up being the one had to be ordered 10 months before the wedding- so while I would have had tons of options, I would have lost out on my dress.
My best suggestion would be to not get too carried away in wedding planning too fast. Definitely take some time to enjoy being engaged- because that is special too
Post # 6
The Knots list assumes you live in an area with a huge amount of back ups. I would start looking for wedding stuff that requires a certain person or people to be there on a certain day. These include, venue, caterer, DJ (if you are having one) photographer (if you are having one) and start looking into hair stylist options. Everything else can wait a while. Save the dates, you need a firm date and firm venue, and I wouldn’t send out more than 9 months in advance. Decor can be done up until the day of the wedding (probably don’t want to, but it can)
Post # 7
Now that you have when, figure out where! I’m booking for September 2015, and a venue we’ve been eyeing for months is already getting pretty booked-up (at least for Saturdays). If you want to reserve your Sunday date, I recommend jumping on it before all the Saturday dates are booked up.
I researched a TON of venues in the area we wanted and looked at all the options for ceremony/reception combos. You will need to take into account approximate number of guests and budget. After that, narrowing it down will get easier. In the end, there was really only one venue for us… and one back-up venue that was less perfect. But if you’re getting married in the same area you live, you have the option to go check out the venues. Make appointments! Every venue has their pros and cons. My SO hasn’t even officially proposed, but we jumped on the venue because we didn’t want to lose out!
Next thing to worry about is photographer, caterer (if not included in the venue), ceremony location, etc. Possibly a DJ, if you’re going with that, as well. Anything you have to “book,” you want to look at first.