Post # 1
I am obviously very new to planning weddings, not helping that i am only 17 … i am currently engaged to a soldier who is in active duty in Afghanistian. I feel like every time i try to get something done, i find out more things that i have to plan for this wedding! i also feel like im alone in this whole process.. i have supportive family and friends. but theres no effort to help me in planning this wedding at all. so can someone PLEASE tell me, WHERE DO I START?!?!
Post # 3
If your date is correct, you don’t really need to do anything yet. You really can’t book anything until a year out and it’s generally recommended that you don’t buy much of anything until then either.
Right now, your best bet is to get a Pinterest account and start pinning ideas. Hanging around here helps too, because you’ll learn a lot about etequitte and common problems people run into and get ideas.
Post # 4
Welcome! You will find lots of support here. There are quite a few military wives and wives to be.
I suggest that the first thing is to establish your budget. Who is paying for the wedding and how much are they prepared to contribute? Are the two of you paying? Are parents on either side prepared to contribute?
Have you already set your date? Sept 2014? or is that just something to fill in the blank when you created your profile?
Next start saving ideas that you like so you will eventually be able to make choices in colors, theme, decor etc
Do you have a Pinterest account? It’s a great place to save ideas in different folders.
Post # 5
I would start with figuring out your budget. Also think about when/where you want to get married and the feel/theme (that could be colors, “rustic”, “vintage”, “classic”, “black tie”, “casual” or any number of things). The third thing you should think about is your guest list. Decide if you want to have a small intimate family only wedding with 10 guests, a medium sized wedding (50-100?) people, or a large affair with everyone you know. These will all affect each other so its a good idea to figure out which ones are the most important and let that guide the other decisions. So if your budget is small and you want a formal wedding, that might mean a small guest list. Or if you want to do a destination wedding that will probably affect the budget ect.
I would try to get as much of your FI’s input as you can, although I know that is tough if he is deployed. You have two years which is a lot of time. I spent the first year of my engagement doing the things I just mentioned. I also bought my dress (but this can wait), booked the venues (can also wait depending on your location) and gathered addresses (which can be a shared task among you and your families).
Post # 6
thanks! i know i have a ton of time on my hands, he’ll be gone for 9 months.. he just got shipped out last week. but im the type of person who likes to have thing done now and know whats going on.. budget is hard, and his family hasnt said anything about helping out with anything as of now.. the other factor of me wanting to plan now, is that when he gets back. im moving with him. we want to get ”eloped” so i can move on base with him. if weather works accordingly we have a place for where we want the wedding, and i have a place for afterwards. getting that booked wont be such a problem. i can pay for my dress shoes ect. without help i have a stable job with promising factors. plus once he gets home from deployment we can realllllly pick a budget from there..
I think im just trying to do all this now, to keep my mind off of him while hes away.. i’ll try pintrest i heard a lot of good things from there! and i guess for the next few months, just look at dresses get a feel and idea of colors.. right ?thanks everyone !
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
Go buy TheKnot wedding planning book. Or any wedding planning book, it will help you break down what you need to do in catagories and hopefully relieve some of your stress and worry. Alot of these planning books will even break down what you need to do each month. But PP is correct, really you can sit back and relax until about a year before your date. If you want though I’d research your venue. Our venue books 2 years in advance which is why we have our date as 2014, I want this venue and won’t budge on it so I had to book now or not get the date we wanted.
Relax and enjoy and we’re here to give advice or just listen while you vent when its gets too overwhelming.
Post # 8
Something that my FI and I did that helped for us: we had a conversation about what 3 things we each really wanted at the wedding. What 3 things were most important for each of us. For me it was: 1. Photography, 2. Good Food, 3. Having a fair amount of friends/family there. For FI it was: 1. Food, 2. Good Drinks, 3. Photography. I feel like its a good way to see what each other values. It also kept us from arguing about certain things later on because we already knew what was important and what was something we could save on. Happy Planning!