Post # 1
So I’m not familiar with posting on boards or blogs but I have two things,
I just recently got engaged and my FI was soo excited, maybe even more than me. well when it came to try to set a date he was very indecisive. he still is and i’ve tried and tried to plan and get him to be where im at with everything but it quickly wore off and now he wants nothing to do with it? how do i get him to talk to me about our wedding?
Also as i was looking and trying to do things for our wedding i learned that i loved this type of thing and while im in school for my nursing degree. i feel more passoniate about planning weddings? i think i’d make an excellet planner.. how do i break into that business?
Post # 3
Welcome to Wedding Bee and Congratulations on your engagement!
It took my husband and I a good 2 months after getting engaged to pick a date. There were tons of different factors involved. His sisters already planned wedding, my brothers deployment etc…so we were pretty limited as to when we could get married. It was either jump the gun and start planning for a February wedding (we got engaged in July) or wait until the following November for my brother to return from overseas. That helped make our decision a little easier.
My suggestions to you would be to start with a season. do you prefer a spring wedding? or a fall wedding? summer or winter? – and then look at a calender and figure out what weekends would be best for you and your families. Some people try to avoid hoildays where other prefer to plan right along with them to give their guests more travel time.
another suggestions would be to pick a date that sounds pleasing to you or has some sort of meaning for the two of you? Maybe a dating anniversary?
Sometimes guys just need a little push – be like listen, if we can just settle on a date then i’ll leave you alone for a while. Thats when you can start researching venues, photographers, etc….then I would just bring him into it when you’ve narrowed down your picks and see what he prefers. Some guys don’t care and others want to be really involved. Just feel him out.
As far as getting into the wedding business I wish I had some advice. I’ve always wanted to open my own bridal salon but haven’t tackled that dream yet. maybe do some google searches on how to become a wedding planner? Start going to bridal expos and see if maybe you can score a part time job with someone who already does it and needs help?
Post # 4
Congrats! Give him some time. It took my FI about a month to start getting used to the idea of setting a date. It really is very stressful on men to plan a proposal. My FI was a bit nervous as usual and tired afterwards. It’s because he put so much into it to make it special and he wanted to enjoy just being engaged before thinking about being married. Dont overwhelm him with wedding stuff right away. They need time to process it. It doesnt mean that they dont love you, it just takes guys a little longer.
Also, its not necessary to bug him on every detail. It may push him away. Women are better at planning lots of the smaller details so focus on that and get his imput on the important things. Try to be patient with him. Basically think of it this way, its like you trying to listen to a million details about football or some other manly thing that he likes. It doesnt interest you as much as it does him. I am sure he wants to be involved, just probably not in every detail such as picking out jewelry, shoes, flowers or even decor. Good luck!
Post # 5
@Jill129: I forgot where I heard this (I think it was from one of my FI co-workers), but he said “girls always dream about the day they get married, and boys always dream about the day they get engaged.” IDK I think it makes a little sense seeing how SOME men are a bit hesitant to set a date right after the engagement. I agree with pp, give him some time.
Post # 6
thank you ladies for all your advice! it really helped me, im going to talk to him tonight! hopefully we make progress