Post # 1
Hello bees, just wondering if u had an engagement party, where you had it. Was it at one of your parents houses like a backyard bbq or more formal at a restaurant? Also who did you invite? Only people who really close to you and close family? or The whole extended family/friends?
I was just wondering what other people are doing because my future in laws want to have a backyard bbq but i want to do something a little nicer than that rather than any regular old bbq. But we both have pretty big families and are thinking it would be very expensive to have at a restaurant of catering hall.
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Post # 2
jze70k: We had a fun night at a bar with our friends, and my FMIL rented a log cabin and we had a weekend getaway celebration for family 🙂
Post # 3
jze70k: My grandma offered to throw my FI and I an engagement party. We invited 92 people – only immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, 1st cousins) and the people who are going to be in our bridal party and their SOs. It ended up being 85 people, so we moved it to my dad’s house because his backyard is way bigger than my grandma’s. It was still expensive feeding and boozing up all those people. BUT everyone had a really good time!! For us, a more casual backyard shindig was just right. Having it at a restaurant would’ve been more expensive and not nearly as fun/rowdy (which we enjoy lol). The last of us didn’t leave my dad’s house until 4 am.
That being said, if a restaurant is more YOU then have it in a restaurant. But keep in mind cost when inviting guests, especially with a big family.
Post # 4
jze70k: The church my fiancé parents go to have this big hall with a full functioning kitchen and tables and chairs. We invited 103 people my family his family and a couple of friend and co-workers we devided the food between both families and my fiancé and I purchase the alcohol. I got the invitations from Walmart,I diy all the decorations someone let me borrow some white tablecloth and chair. I got alot of things from oriantal trading like plates and monogram champagne flutes napking cake topper. I hired my good friend who his a photographer he charged me 180 for the 6 hours ,a family friend who is a Dj did the music for us . As favor I did a candy buffe and I had 2 chocolate fountain one with white chocolate and one dark I had fruit. It was awasome it took me about 4 months to plan. I always go back and look at the pictures. weddingbee won’t allow me to post pictures on my phone idk why, when I get home I will try to post some from my PC.
Maybe you can rent a hall and both family cook or order some food from an upcoming catering Compagny or small one that can save you a lot of money. Try to diy all the invite and centerpieces. It will save you money. Hope that help!
Post # 5
We’re having a cocktail party at a country club and inviting about 100! Can’t wait.
Post # 6
We had a backyard party at the groom’s parents house. His father was incredibly sick with cancer at the time and we didn’t want him to have to travel far, plus we were on a really tight budget. We invited his entire extended family and a few close friends. Since we weren’t sure if he would make it to our wedding, I wanted him to be able to see all the friends and family just in case. Unfortunately he passed before our wedding day, so I’m really glad we did things the way we did.
Post # 7
Mine was a restaurant buy out, with extended family and close friends invited. When my sister was getting married, she took my parents to view a wedding venue in Toronto’s Distillery District, and since then, my mom has been obsessed with hosting an event there. My parents hosting my engagement party was really just an excuse to use that venue, I think, lol.
Like another Bee mentioned, you’re paying for food and booze for a number of people. These are the biggest costs in a wedding budget. My wedding will cost only a teeny bit more than my engagement party.
The good thing about most engagement parties is that they are free for the bride and groom to be, so that’s a definite plus. Besides meeting with the event planner and the styling company people twice just so they could get to know me, I had no idea what the party would be like until I arrived. If I had to contribute my own time and $ to the party, I probably wouldn’t have had one.
Post # 8
My parents hosted our engagement party on their property and had it catered and staffed. It was more garden party than backyard BBQ. It was really nice.
Mostly everyone invited to the wedding was invited to the engagement party.. My FI and I had zero input except guest list. My parents put everything together, sent out invites, chose the food and drink, etc.
Post # 9
We had an informal engagement party the night we got engaged.
We already had plans with friends and family to go to a hockey game event that we’ve done for the last 3 years that evening. He proposed that afternoon, so once we told our parents/siblings (who were with us before the hockey game), we were able to tell everyone once they showed up to the event. So, it was really just for the people that could make it to that – which was fine.
For the occasion, his dad decided to have open bar at the hotckey game (we rent a suite) for everyone there, so that was a way to celebrate.