Post # 1
I have friends of friends/family who are getting married and some of the stories I’ve heard lately have made me go “Thank goodness that’s not me!” due to tackiness/selfishness and the reactions of their friends and families.
Bride insisting that her flower girl wear a $200 dress. Honestly? There is no reason a 5 year old needs a dress like that. It’s a pretty simple dress so the FG’s aunt offered to make a replica (she’s an amazing seamstress) to which the bride replied “There’s no way she’s walking in my wedding with a dress made in someone’s kitchen!”
Jack and Jill party where attendees have to buy tickets – $25 per person or $40 per couple. Now I’m not too familiar with Jack and Jills but this just sounds like a cash grab to me! Her aunt wanted to bring her son (brides cousin who is in his early 20’s) to which she said – you’re not a couple so tickets will be $50! Like I said I don’t know to much about Jack and Jills so I’m wondering – is this normal?
So ladies – heard anything lately that makes you ask “What are they thinking?”
Post # 3
In my defense, my 8-year-old flower girl is wearing a $200 dress in my wedding, but her mom was ALL for it (I felt bad) and she’s doing a pageant the month after the wedding, so she’s going to re-wear it.
That being said- does she realize where that $200 dress was made? Probably by a bunch of ladies in China, sitting in dingy factory getting paid pennies on the dollar for the dress her FG’s aunt could have easily made.
I hate when people assume that having something handmade is going to be cheap- it’s only going to look bad if the person doesn’t know how to sew, but if they’re good at it, it can actually be *better* quality than something bought ready-to-wear.
Sorry. Rant over.
Post # 4
The ticket-buying thing sounds ridiculous!! It’s not prom. Jeesh.
Post # 5
Actually I have heard of the ticket buying before for Jack/Jill’s. But I agree a $200 dress for a 5 year old is a bit much.
Post # 6
$200 is ridiculous.. even my bridesmaid dresses only cost $139… My Flower Girl dress is $39 from davids bridal and i asked them to buy a sash to go with it that cost $10 so a total of $49 and I kept wondering if I was asking too much..
Post # 7
@tinylittlebird: I agree – if the parents don’t mind then that’s fine! In your case that makes sense because she can wear it again! But hers were not too keen on the idea. It most likely is made somewhere that is no better than a kitchen (of a very nice home btw!)
The aunt and my mom are actually making my junior bridesmaids dress for my niece because we couldn’t find anything that didn’t look too young but also didn’t look too grown up for her (she’s 11). Because she lives out of state they’ve made a muslin mock-up in what her size is now so that they can alter it before making the real dress about two weeks before and it’s gorgeous! I can’t wait to see what it looks like in satin! The shop where the brides Flower Girl is getting her dress said that because they are so expensive that people make them themselves all the time. They’ll even give them pointers on where to find similar fabric. In my case ours is being made with the same fabric as the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses – we ordered 3 yards from the company.
@tntrav44: That’s what I thought! I wonder if they’ll get couples pictures taken with a cheesy backdrop!
Post # 8
Does the Jack and Jill have an open bar? Cause that’s the only reason I’ve seen a ticket for one that much!
Post # 9
@jimbert321: I’m not sure about the open bar. I guess I’ve never heard of charging people that much to come to an event like that before either. Do people also bring gifts to a Jack and Jill?
Post # 10
I think the idea of the J&J is to raise money to pay for the wedding? So the money IS the gift, right? I would NOT be comfortable throwing something like that OR attending, but it might be a regional thing.
Post # 11
In my area you don’t, it’s more like a giant party with games and such to celebrate the upcoming wedding. There’s usually awesome prizes, I know a lot of people who gave away TV’s and Texas Mickey’s…
Post # 12
tickets for a jack and jill??? Seriously? Get real i’d send you a card with a penny in it.