Post # 1
This is a question for all who have had the JOP ceremony and had a “wedding celebration” later in the year.
Which anniversary date do you celebrate? Do you personally celebrate the “wedding” date becauae that’s when the guests think you got married (if they don’t know) or do you celebrate the JOP date?
Do your guests know that you were already “married” earlier?
Do you get anniversary cards on your JOP date or the “wedding”date?
Post # 3
interested in seeing the comments 🙂
Post # 4
I’m not married yet but since we’re having a destination wedding were doing the JOP at home a month before.
We plan to celebrate our wedding date as our anniversary not the JOP date. We’re looking at the jop as purely legal.
Post # 5
FI and I decided to do both. We will spend the JOP anniversary together (because our legal wedding is going to be super small, with no reception because we want to spend our day together). And we will celebrate the anniversary of our destination wedding with friends and family, because that’s when we celebrated our wedding with our friends and family.
Post # 6
We’re eloping, so I think we plan to celebrate the JOP date. We don’t intend to actually have a “wedding” celebration for a year or two afterwards, but we’re tentatively thinking we’ll try to have it on the same date as our original JOP- so teeechnically, we’ll celebrate both
Post # 7
My FI is English so we’re going through the whole fiance visa thing and as far as I’m concerned, I care what God & my family/friends witness more than what the government issued paper says so we are going to celebrate our actually WEDDING not the legal date.
Is there ever a time where that date might come to the surface? doubtful… I don’t see the reason to acknowledge it really and I’m VERY sentimental…
I guess I’m probably just annoyed that we have all the red tap to go through haha
Post # 8
We celebrate both so I didn’t vote in the poll. For the JOP one, my hubby plans the celebration and for our wedding, I do. I think it’s a nice compromise 🙂
As for guests, most of them knew. We had a civil ceremony because my husband’s brother was sent to Afghanistan last minute and the timing meant he would miss our wedding, so we had a simple ceremony before he got deployed so he could be there. We proceeded with our original wedding plans 4.5 months later.
I think most people recognize our wedding as when we got married because that was the big celebration.
Post # 9
We are going to celebrate the Wedding date. He even forgets that we JOP a week before the wedding lmao.
Post # 10
We celebrate our JOP anniversary
Post # 11
@KimmySumShuga: +1! I’m Dutch, he’s Canadian, we live in the UK. We’re trying to get all this visa stuff out of the way months before his current visa expires. So while technically we’ve been married for just over 3 weeks I’m happily sitting here planning the wedding! Family and a few select friends know, but they’re still excitedly talking about the wedding plans when we make it official in front of family, friends and God.
Post # 12
I’m not sure what we’re going to do…it’d be one thing if the dates were close together or even a few months apart, but we got married last Monday and our wedding isn’t until July. I don’t think we’ll ignore the JOP day, but I think the wedding date will be the bigger celebration.
Post # 13
This is probably what we are going to end up doing, as well.
Post # 14
This is us too. We are a DW wedding and had to go to JOP first. Our anniversary will be our November wedding.
Post # 15
we will celebrate the JOP just between ourselves, but our “wedding” as the big one.
Post # 16
I am having a destination wedding and will be legally married about one month before the ceremony. We will celebrate the ceremony date each year as our anniversary.
However, I’m the type of person who remembers dates of everything, and I don’t think I would be able to let the date that we were legally married go by without acknowledging it somehow, so I presume we will celebrate that day in a small way, maybe just a nice dinner together.