Post # 1
I have another place for a bridesmaid because I need 6 & can’t have any more or less or it will look wierd. I would like one of my 2 roommates to be my bridesmaid, but who do I ask? 1 of my roomies I’ve known longer & am closer to. We’ve gone to camp together & have more in depth convos & she cares about me, wants to know how I’m doing, how my day was, etc… but the other roomie is helping with my wedding A LOT since she’s helping me plan things, getting really involved, she’s making my wedding cake free cause she loves to do that, plus she’s helping with arrangements & doing my flowers too! I’m 100% sure she could do my entire wedding with no problem, she is a pro. She’s also my friend & I’m not considering her out of guilt, but because wow she’s been an incredible help!
How have you chosen your bridesmaids when you have to decide between certain people?
Post # 3
Maybe ask the second bm to be a coordinator since she seems to be so organized?
Post # 4
If the 2nd friend is doing all of those things, it actually might be difficult (if not impossible) for her to do them AND be your Bridesmaid or Best Man. I get how you may want to ask her as kind of a “thank you” for what she is doing for you, but it might actually work against you if you do so. Maybe decide what is more important for you to have that friend do & then decide if it still makes sense to ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 5
I say ask both of them, so what if the numbers look odd. I think it be sweet to have both of them in your Bridal Party. Specially since you do want both of them in there. If its a money thing and you can only have 6. I would choose the girl who is helping you out a lot in the wedding, because in her helping you out she is really being a good friend.
Post # 6
I feel like picking one is very likely to upset the other, so it’s kind of a lose-lose for you. Why can’t you ask them both? If it’s because your Fiance only has 6, I might reconsider, since it’s not a huge disparity.