Which colors are off-limits for wedding guests?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What colors are off limits as a wedding guest?
    Red is off limits : (8 votes)
    3 %
    Black is off limits : (16 votes)
    5 %
    Ivory/cream is off limits : (106 votes)
    34 %
    Pale pastels are off limits : (1 votes)
    0 %
    White is off limits : (141 votes)
    45 %
    Nothing is off limits - everyone knows who the bride is! : (43 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    6631 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I honestly didn’t care and find it rather silly that people do care. Everyone is going to know who the bride is.

    Post # 5
    5391 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @loveinthelibrary:  you should have an option for ‘none’; I honestly don’t care, generally speaking (the only exception being FMIL who strongly hinted she would wear white to pass me off (she isn’t coming any more so I’ll never know if my supposition was correct); and that only annoyed me because of her motives). If someone wears cream/white/ivory that’s cool, likewise red/black/the bridal party colours. I would draw the line and a full-on wedding dress though! 

    Post # 6
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Sassygrn:  +1

    I assume adults can dress themselves. While white is rude to wear, I doubt I would have noticed anyone wearing white (actually I didn’t know if anyone truly did).

    Post # 7
    284 posts
    Helper bee

    I would say everybody knows who the bride is, but it’s a tradition not to wear white. I don’t mind white or cream accents/stripes/patterns/etc but when I see solid white or cream unless it’s on a child I’m usually a bit confused. I never do it personally because I wouldn’t want attention drawn to myself like that.

    Post # 8
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    As long as white is paired with another color, I wouldn’t mind a guest wearing white. Most people can easily spot the bride. 

    Post # 9
    4638 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I could care less. Setting rules for what your guests can and cannot wear is bordering on bridezilla territory.. I don’t even think I’d notice if someone wore white.

    Post # 10
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    @loveinthelibrary:  I voted nothing is off limits, because it’s not the color as much as the type of clothing. Plus, some brides don’t wear white for their weddings (my reception dress is purple for reference), the ”no white” rule doesn’t make sense when it’s not even the color the bride wears. No black is confusing … most men own a black suit and will wear it. And for ladies, I think a black dress can always look elegant and formal. No red, that’s even more confusing to me, I can’t even tell you why it’s supposed to be offensive, I’ve never heard of that rule before this board. I guess in other cultures red is bridal as well (ex. Chinese) ? Other than that, I don’t make the equation black = funeral or red = whatever offensive reference. What would bother me is if a guest showed up wearing inappropriate clubbing attire to my wedding because I’d like the whole event to be tasteful and elegant. 


    Post # 11
    2675 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    The only one that every catches my eye is when I see people in solid white/ivory/cream. Everything else is fine with me.

    Post # 12
    8387 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I really couldn’t care less when it came to my guests’ attire.

    Post # 13
    6963 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think it’s polite not to wear solid white or ivory. Other than that, anything goes.

    Post # 14
    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Honestly, I didn’t even care.  I’m pretty sure there were lot of black and then a lot of people who didn’t realize dress up even though it was more “upscale” and in the evening.  They’re the one’s that look funny so why do I care?


    If someone came in wearing a white ballgown, I’d probably be like WTF?  Not necessarily mad, but more rolling my eyes thinking they’re an idiot and everyone else probably thinks so too.  I think I looked pretty good on the day of my wedding, so I wasn’t afraid of anyone upstaging me…lol

    Post # 15
    567 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Sassygrn:  +1

    OP I didn’t mind what anyone chose to wear. Most people know not to wear white and even if someone did I wouldn’t have been upset. I honestly don’t remember what most of my guests were wearing in the first place.

    Post # 16
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Personally I wouldn’t care if a guest at my wedding had showed up in a white cocktail dress. Obviously it’s not a wedding dress. I still wouldn’t wear that outfit to someone else’s wedding though. Any other color is totally fine though. 

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