Post # 1
So FI and I found our venue; we love it, and it’s priced right. The only issue is that there is very limited availability during 2015 (yes, I know, it’s crazy). The on-site coordinator gave us all of the available dates, and none of them are perfect, but we need to make a decision. Here are our choices:
1. March 7, 2015: This is during FI’s (and mine, if I choose to go back to school next year – I’m still deciding) spring break from law school, so he’d have the entire week prior to help out with wedding stuff. He could probably a day or two after the wedding off too, just to relax. We’d have to wait until May for our honeymoon. The negative of this date is that it’ll still be COLD where we live (no pretty pictures with flowers, etc.) and we could possibly have a huge snowstorm that would ruin everything.
2. June 6 or 13: There is another couple deciding between these two dates, so we could take whichever they don’t. This would be nice because the weather would be great, and we’ve always envisioned a spring/summer wedding. The HUGE negative of this date is that FI will likely be starting his 2L internship the week or two prior. He likely would have no time off before or after the wedding. We would have to wait until August to go on our honeymoon.
3. A date in October or November. They still have plenty dates in those months open, but it just seems SO far away. We got engaged in October of 2013, so that would be a 2+ year engagement. Also, if I go back to school next year, this wouldn’t be an option for us, as I’ll be teaching and can’t just take a few days off. If I don’t go back to school, FI could definitely take a week or so off from school and we could go on our honeymoon right away.
Ugh. Obviously none of this is ideal, but what would you do?
Post # 3
@annb9: I vote March 7th! And not just because my date is March 8th…
I think you’ll really appreciate having that extra time off. It will be much less stressful for both of you. Outside pictures weren’t really a big deal for me..living in New England you can’t really count on the weather, so even you choose a date in June or October there’s still a big chance that it will rain (especially in June, depending on where you live).
Also, I think winter weddings are really cool – if it is snowing or if there is snow on the ground it could make for some really unique and cool pictures!
Post # 4
@leahthehun: Thanks – I’m starting to lean towards March, but I just can’t decide! I think I’m a little turned off by March because it just isn’t what I’d always envisioned…but you’re right, snow pictures could be beautiful.
Post # 5
@annb9: I’d go with March too. Weddings are crazy hectic times and you will need all the support/help you can get from your groom. The less stress the better. And waiting until May for a honeymoon won’t be that bad since you will both have dedicated time off – no need to ask a boss for permission.
And March there are still flowers blooming – think crocus, daffodil, and maybe tulips. All very colorful. And winter/early spring weddings have other great benefits (like less costly) which might be beneficial to you both since you are still in school. Think less debt for when you start your marriage.
The June date would be extra stressful for your groom with a new job and getting married all in one month. You don’t want to put that much pressure on him.
And the October one sounds like it would be stressful for you and you are right, it’s SO far away! I’ve been engaged for almost 1.5 years (the longest I said I would go) and it’s been so hard to keep everyone else in the wedding (parents, siblings, friends) excited for that long. We almost got married in February – but my sister (the MOH) is out of the country on a 3 month internship – so it got pushed back to May. I so wish I was already married at this point of my engagement.
Good luck choosing!!
Post # 6
@annb9: Yike, that is a bit of a pickle. I chose March 7th since it sounds like, of all the less than ideal choices, that is the one that would work out best in terms of ‘free time’ to plan the wedding. You two are going to have a LOT to do, and if one or both of you is too busy with school or internships to contribute to planning and getting things ready, things could get super stressful.
Have you considered finding an indoor place to do photos? Where I live the weather is ALWAYS unpredictable. FI and I are getting married in mid-May, which means there could be snow, rain, sun … who knows! We are planning and hoping to do our photos outdoors at a beautfiul park, but we do have a couple of backups in case we are unable to do so. One of our backups is the local Floral Conservatory that has lots of beautiful flowers and greenery, which will serve as an excellent backdrop for our photos if need be :).
If you find a backup indoor photo area that meets your needs, then there are really no cons to a March wedding other than waiting for your honeymoon, which really isn’t that big of a deal. It will be something to look forward to and maybe will prevent you from having those after wedding blues that some brides get!
Post # 7
You could get married June and it could be incredibly rainy and gross, or March and it be beautiful. You can never predict the weather (especially these days), all you can do is make the most of it. You want to be the least stressed out possible so you can enjoy the wedding.
Post # 8
@annb9: March! It seems like the best choice given ALL of the unknowns and potential complications that may arise due to school, internships, etc. If you want FI around before and maybe a little after the wedding, MARCH is the best for you!
Post # 9
@annb9: I would be inclined to pick a fall/winter month, but only because it gets so bloody hot down here during the spring and summer times. Also, a 2+ year engagement isn’t unheard of. It gives you plenty of time to plan everything and possibly save up some funds for either the wedding or honeymoon, so you don’t feel as though you’re going into debt just for one major event.
Post # 10
March! It sounds like the perfect time in your schedules – and winter weddings are gorgeous! Sure you will have to worry about a snow storm, but you will be able to get some amazing pictures!
Post # 11
@leahthehun: I voted march, because practically it sounds like the best date for you