Which do you prefer – Personal written vows OR traditional vows???

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Which do you prefer - Personal written vows OR traditional vows???
    Personalized vows! - Love how it highlights the couple's personality & displays the love they share! : (86 votes)
    30 %
    Traditional ones! Love the history and tradition of the vows. Don't mess with what works! : (86 votes)
    30 %
    A combination of both - A personalized take on the traditional ones, or a combination of the two. : (103 votes)
    36 %
    Neither - I don't have an opinion. : (10 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    we are not writting our owns. i will be far to emotional that day of the wedding to worry about reading something of my own! just let me repeat after someone lol.

    I do love personal vows tho- im just not creative!

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    neither of us wanted to deal with the pressue of having to write our own vows, so we just stuck with the tradtional vows.

    it’s nice when couples write their own, but i feel like a lot of the time they don’t even sound like wedding vows, at least not serious vows. it’s more like they’re just reading a love letter and/or promising silly things like a whole closet just for her shoes or sacrificing the tv during football season.  i think if you’re going to write your own vows, the essence of the tradtional vows should still be there.

     

    Post # 5
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    5932 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I like when couples write their own vows…but I get VERY irritated when the “vows” aren’t really vows at all, but more of a narrative about their journey as a couple and how they feel about each other…at its nuts and bolts, marriage is a contract, a promise…you have to promise things to each other…not re-hash how much you care….we KNOW that already!

    Post # 6
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    291 posts
    Helper bee

    It depends in the type of wedding, but I prefer the traditional vows, and particularly the ones used in the Church of England. 

    Post # 7
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    282 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think its best when you do a combination of both especially if it is a religious ceremony.  Because to me the traditional vows are not only what we are saying to each other but also what we are vowing to God. 

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Nona99:  Right? Like, land the plane already. Visualizing your awkward, brace-face first kiss at 17 is making me feel weird.

    I’ll be honest and say I’m trying to think of a way OUT of vows, traditional or otherwise. Something about watching two people standing up there trying to be poetic and passionate has always made me a little gaggy. I almost feel like I’m eavesdropping on something I shouldn’t be.

    I’d shoot for something inbetween making your guests vomit and putting them to sleep.

     

    Post # 9
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @HappinessIsInDaisies:  I love the idea of writting your own however I won’t be able to get through them on my wedding day (I can barely get through certain Hallmark Cards!). I’m officiating a wedding in October and the couple asked me to write a different set of vow for them so it was personal but so that they could get through them. 

    Post # 10
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    5932 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @badabing88:  I always flash back to Will Ferrill’s horrible vows to Molly Shannon in Night at the Roxbury…they end with, “….and then you let me have sex with you…”

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Nona99:  …so you’re saying I *shouldn’t* reference intercourse in our vows?

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @badabing88:  well….if you have to reference it…try and church it up with, “Bumping Uglies” or “Slammage”…way classier

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Nona99:  I learned a new word today 🙂

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    my FI and I are going to recite traditional vows, but then write letters to eachother with our own personal vows.  I think sometimes personal things should remain “personal”!

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Traditional. I REALLY do not care if someone promises to put the toilet seat down or whatever! I think the traditional ones are, well, “tried and true.” There’s a reason they’ve stuck around so long! They’re GOOD! they pretty much cover all of the necessary bases IMHO…

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I would love to have us write our own vows and personalize it, but I know myself, and it would probably be embarrassing. I’ve decided we’ll just go with the whole “repeat after me” business.

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