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Out of the big elements of the wedding day: venue, photo, video, flowers, dress, food, drink, cake, favors, decor/lighting, DJ/band, etc, are there any that don't seem as important to you as to most brides?
I wonder if I'm the only one that would be ok with someone else choosing my florist, for example. I'm not that worried about flowers - they're all pretty! And I spent almost no time on the dress. Maybe like 1-2 hours total looking at photos online, 1 hour looking at magazines and 2 hours in the store.
I have done tons of research on all the other big elements of the day and care very much about each detail...just not the flowers and dress. So does anyone else feel like they care about certain things less than they should?
GirlWithARing: Oh my goodness, I am the same way. My best friend/MOH keeps talking to me about flower arrangements, and honestly, flowers are something I really don't care about too much....at least yet. As long as they are within my color scheme, I cannot imagine not liking them. Not to mention, I hardly know the names of any flowers, which means that I don't really have anything set in my mind.
Cake, favors, flowers and dress. Although I'll be having all of these (FI won the cake battle), I really didn't go to crazy over any of them.
Photog/Venue and music were HUGE though.
I agree, farfrom! We booked our venue and the photog is my next biggest priority.
Flowers aren't really important to me. Centerpieces and favors aren't either, but for whatever reason, FI is all about them--he already designed the centerpieces and figured out the price per arrangement, and he is dead set on having "memorable" favors.
YES! All flowers are pretty! I've given the job of flowers/centerpieces/decorations to my mum. She cares much more about those kind of things than me, and the florist she chose is really creative, so I trust him to do a good job.
I would say flowers or the cake. Like you said, I think all flowers are beautiful, it's hard to mess that up.. to me! And I don't do sweets.. like ever, so.. I don't really care about the cake lol
Videography...I'm not sure we'll even have a video made.
Ditto for flowers.
Flowers. I have a few things I hate, but as long as they are the colors I want, we're good.
I was all excited about doing a whole bunch of homemade favors, but I came up with an easy, cheap, awesome idea, and now I don't worry about them one bit. (My mom and I will make chocolate buckeyes, because FI and I are both Ohio State University Buckeyes. A Pair of Buckeyes from Two Buckeyes. Teehee!)
Videography, not even doing it, but that is pretty normal.
Cake. Thought is would be important, but I think a dessert buffet will be so much more fun.
Not important: cake, matching bridesmaids' dresses, flowers, card box, favors, dress
Important: food, alcohol, photography, venue. And we got a great deal on an up-and-coming photog, so even though it's important, we didn't have to splurge!
Seriously? Almost all of it!
The one thing that's making the wait tolerable is that I really enjoy the feeling of anticipation. If it weren't for that -- and, let's face it, logistics -- I would probably love to gather together all of our loved ones and have an impromptu wedding.
However, the one area where I was very picky was with our photographer.
I would say videography - we had a cousin video the ceremony and first dance but that was it. It was too hard justifying spending thousands on a video we wouldnt watch that often.
Didn't really care about dress, favors (destination wedding - did OOT bags), decor/lighting (reception at a restaurant and just used whatever they had) and DJ/band (didn't have one).
Food and photography were most important to us. I was surprised that the flowers actually were important to me, but it was really just my bouquet and a bunch of pretty leis.
I didn't care one bit about our flowers. I knew I didn't want carnations or roses, but after that, I just told the florist (my mom ending up picking one because I didn't want to deal with it!) the vibe of the wedding and she picked gorgeous flowers and made great centerpieces!
I didn't care too much about the cake either. I found a cake I loved in a magazine, went to the cake place that was listed as the bakery the bride used, and asked them to make it again :)
I'm a photographer, so the photographer was the one area I was very insistent on making sure was perfect. I'd picked out our photographer before we got engaged, and he was the first vendor we booked after we set the date.
I also wasn't super picky about the DJ either. We went with one that was highly recommended by the venue and he was amazing!
I don't care about flowers, and I don't care what the cake looks like. I never even considered videography...not appealing to me at all for some reason. Probably because I know that no one but me will ever want to watch it!
I don't care as much about favors, the DJ I was like "whatever" on, and video is one area I just haven't been able to justify spending money on since photography was a splurge. I'm about ready to care less about bridesmaid dresses thanks to some snarky comments from a sister. Food, photography, and my dress were all important to me.
Don't give a poop about favors. My Mom insists on having them - so let her worry about it.
I'm not worried about the cake either. I feel like no one ever eats it because they always serve it while people are dancing. Plus, we're having chocolate fountains and those are always more fun. I feel like the cake's more for pictures.
FI also took care of the DJ and the cars, I didn't care about how I get to my wedding - just get me there! LOL
Photog was most important to me. That and the venue.
after reading this, i'm realizing most of it isn't important to me. i care about food, the photographer, my dress, the venue, and flowers. the rest i could do without.
Bottom of my priority list: food (I would love to just order a bunch of pizzas), favors (not doing them), invitations and anything else paper (not doing STDs)
Important: dress, venue, photography
Vidiographer - We're not having one. And crazy as it sounds, the food! As long as people don't starve, I don't really care. The truth is that I can't remember a single meal that I've had at any wedding I've been to!
Wow, I'd say a lot of these, but it's so weird... i feel like an encore because I already planned an entire wedding and moved my date. I cared about them the first time I was planning, but not now...
Lowest in priority: videographer, flowers, veil, dress (i know, right? shocking!... just want it to look good on me), time of day for ceremony/reception and guestbook, sort of.
Highest in priority: venue, photog, people invited, food and drink. oh, and the ceremony, duh! :)
I'm so glad a lot of people feel the same as I do about flowers. I love flowers they are so pretty....each and every one in their own way but I dont care what I have at my wedding. As long as they arent thorny, sticky, or stinky then I dont care. When I tell my future mother in law that I dont care she flips. It makes me feel bad but honestly if I cared it wouldn't have taken me 7 months to pick a bouquet that I can halfway stand to think it will be at our wedding. I can NOT wait till this is all over and we are at the big day and its just my FH and I standing at the alter...flowers or no flowers, just us.
I outsourced our flowers! My mom interviewed three, I went with her to one, and she made the decision. We totally nixed videography and a guestbook.
Obviously the elements that are most important are food/drink, entertainment, and photography. If something isn't important to us then we aren't including it at all.
The ones at the bottom of the list, at least as far as the "big" elements go is a band. We and our families and friends prefer songs by the original artists so a dj was the only option in our minds. We're on the fence about videography. It would be nice to have but we haven't come across anyone yet whose videos we love enough to justify the price of. We don't care about limos either.
Of the "smaller" elements, not on your original list, the things we don't care about and aren't including are out of town bags, favors, champagne toasts (and toasts in general), secured card box (a basket works great for both of our families and we won't be sharing the venue with anyone sketchy or unknown to us), bathroom baskets, a veil, being given away by anyone (which is different from having an escort down the aisle), spotlight dances, fancy intros to the reception by the dj, an MC. I'm sure there are others but they don't come to mind at the moment.
I'd say flowers and video are the top "non concerns"
Big concerns are photo and food/drink!
I'd agree, flowers and our cake is our least important detail..photos are #1
Table decorations, favors, video, couldn't care less. Photography, though, was priority #1.
I didn't care much about the cake. I wound up saving a ton of money by getting it from a grocery store. It was 3 tiers, buttercream, and delicious. None of the guests had any idea!
Photography and the dress were at the top of my list. Flowers are up there, but they aren't something that I am going to stress so much about. Cake is one of my lowest priorities. I am considering cupcakes and my mother is horrified.
i can do without flowers, dont care much for anything i wont really get to enjoy (i.e. favors, STDs and invitations), the food....
biggest thing for me: the dress, venue, date, and of course the groom! which i got all of those! lol
don't care about stds, definitely won't be doing them, programs are meh, most of the paper products don't have to be stellar, they will be nice as i will be doing them but nothing too intense, i mean people throw them away, you know....
things I didn't care that much about: cake, flowers, having a videographer, stationary.....it all had to be "good enough" but I didn't really jump through hoops or anything and I did it as cheaply as possible. Case in point: Cake=$150, flowers=$200, videographer=$0, stationaries=$200 for everything. yes, everything
It seems like a lot of ladies agree on the same few things! There are a lot of things that are non-issues for me. Flowers for sure. Cake was on the top of my "I could care less" list. My fiance's aunts offered to pay for one. . .but we aren't even having one! We're going to put their money towards something else.
flowers has to showcase my skillz :D..... videographers i don't really care about?! i could put some friggin' fantbulous pix to music, but it's really not my "thing" i'd be cool having an amatuer or friend with a camera lol, i think i'd actually like the shaky realness (but again i like gritty things)... cake lol i know a great person, i don't care about having a groom's cake and actually think they are wastes of money because that's a lot of friggin' cake, you know? i don't know if i care for a luxury car or not yet (not limo,think bentley) i know it's completely irrational and silly BUT my aunt had a luxury rolls when i was 7 and i always imagined leaving in a white bentley <3 we shall see lol!
now i also don't care much about my engagement ring, well i want it to have a halo setting but that's about all that i am into, my wedding band i care more about lol...
I DON'T care too much about: the cake; we're having a tiny wedding and regular cakes from a nearby bakery are awesome and really nicely decorated. We're planning to reserve 2 of their normal cakes and propping-up some porcelain doves we found at a flea market. I'm also not fussy about the flowers, I know I want peonies and want them super simple, but fresh looking. The Fi's attire: he'll be wearing a black suit from our closet (that's newish). My shoes, aside from the color, I don't care too much about.
Things I DO care about: food, photography, our honeymoon, small accessories (like the clasp for my shawl, his tie, his socks), and my hair and veil.
Things we're not having at all: STDs, music, videographer, rehearsal dinner, a bridal party.
Things that are increasingly important (but I didn't care too much before): my dress
transportation wasnt a big deal to me. i had hoped for a classic car but we couldn't get a hold of one. so we booked a limo 9 days before the wedding.
Flowers. We're picking most from a friend's parents farm which has fields and fields of wildflowers and then buying from a grocery store for the big things like bouquets. I don't care what color the flowers are or if they're fancy or anything.
The food. totally insane, I know. I want good food people will like and that my vegetarians FI and myself can eat, but otherwise couldn't give a flying hoot. Our caterer is amazing and totally happy to decide on the menu all by herself. Yay!
Transportation. My FI hates limos, and while there was a brief dream of a horse-drawn carriage, I don't care much how I get from point A to point B and then home to bed. We may, in fact, use taxis all day simply because we don't any of us want to not drink at our wedding and we're not sure who'd be willing to stay sober to drive us around (we're both from big drinking families and friends).
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