Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2015 - Country Club
Hello fellow Bees!
I started wedding planning last year (almost a three year engagement!) and had an idea for favors, but of course, as happens with many details, I came up with other options as well. I started off with the idea of chocolates, but then my grandfather died from Alzheimer’s Disease in September, and I thought that donations in lieu of favors would be nice. But I also know people love to see food as favors (there will be plenty of food during the cocktail hour as well)!
I would love your opinion on what you would prefer to see as a guest at someone’s wedding! The wedding is October 10, 2015, so I have plenty of time for any of these options. It is a classic/elegant 1930s vintage + fall themed wedding.
This topic was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by kajan457.
Post # 2
Food would be nice, chocholate particularly, macaroons are great as well. Maybe small bottles of champaigne or other drinks, gourmet tea.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago
You can’t go wrong with any of those options. I voted for the donation. It’s a nice way to honor your grandfather, especially if you were really close to him.
Post # 4
As nice as food favors are, i think a donation is a really great idea. Your guests are going to know why you did it instead of a food item. The donation seems more personal.
Post # 5
Okay so this is one of those etiquette laws that I really don’t care about and even enjoy when couples break every.single.time. : Donations.
Some people get really up in arms about donations being against wedding etiquette. I get it. But seriously I so love it when couples donate to something they care about. After all, I think the reception is gift enough!
Anyway, I’m voting for the donation. I love the idea, even though it is sometimes unpopular with others. What a beautiful way to include your grandfather on your wedding day! (And I’m very sorry for your loss!)
Post # 6
kajan457: Normally food favors are the best favors, however if you are going to have tons of food at the reception anyways, guests may be less inclined to bring food favors home (if you’re full, the last thing you want is more food!). Hence, I think the donation could be a nice touch.
Is it possible to do both your mom’s banana bread and a donation? You could wrap the loaf up really nicely and affix to it a small business card that says instead of a traditional party favor, please enjoy this bread baked with love and a donation has been made to the Altzheimers Foundation (obviously, it will be worded better – this is just a general idea).
Post # 7
We did both-chocolates and a donation (we donated to the humane society), and i’ll be honest: at least half the favours were left behind…i vote donation, because at least that money is going to good use.
Post # 8
I am doing a donation to the Canadian Cancer Society in memory of a loved one. So I voted for a donation.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I loathe bananas with every atom in my body, so don’t do that one!
I voted for the donation, but I wouldn’t be sad to find some chocolates at a wedding, either!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton
I’m normally all about the food, but I think a charitable donation that means something to you and your family is really nice and a way to pay it forward and share the cause with your guests. So I voted for that one, but if you decide against that then I would vote for chocolate!
Post # 11
I might do both chocolate and donation. We lost my grandpa in January and my grandma is dying. They ran the food pantry at their church until they were in their late 80s and I can’t think of a better way to honor their memory.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Either food option. If your mom doesn’t mind making the bread, it’s a great way to do something special, unique, and save money. My mom made cookies for our favors. 🙂
Post # 13
I am weird and don’t really like chocolate and I’m not a big fan of banana bread (though I love that it’s homemade!) so I’d do the donation. My husband, however, would hope for chocolate so he could have mine and his!
Post # 14
I’m sorry to hear about your grandfather. My grandfather also had Alzheimer’s and passed away.
I think you should skip favors and just donate the money you would have used. Favors are not necessary, but I’ll admit I tend to think donations in this situation is weird. No need to advertise it or explain yourself.