Post # 1
Sooo…question to moms who have set up baby registries.
I’m looking to get something for a cousin in law (husband’s cousin)’s baby shower end of this month. We are semi close. In that we email probably once every couple months, etc.
Anyway, I’m a little on the fence about “what” to get her. Here are my 3 options and yeah budget is a concern because we have 8 birthdays in the family before Christmas and not to mention Christmas itself!
Option A (what I would really like to do but not sure if I should spend $$$)Buy a ~$50 item off her registry (which is a high chair) and in addition get this cute hand knit hat off Etsy for ~$20. Total ~$70.
Buy something in the ~$30 range (most items in this range are like mattress covers, diapers, etc.) While I know diapers are invaluable. I don’t really want my baby shower gift to to be diapers!Buy the cute hand knit hat off Etsy. Total ~$50.
Just buy the high chair Total ~$50.
I’m hoping Mother-In-Law emails/calls me (assuming she got a invite in the email even though she’s out of state) if I want to go halfsies on a shower gift because then I”ll go halfsies on the high chair with her. Then get the Etsy hat on the side from me.
And I know I can just ask Mother-In-Law but there’s a back story as to why I don’t want to.
Note that the knit hat is NOT on the registry. Just something super cute extra I want to get her. 🙁
What would you do? What would the mommys to be want?
And I probably am thinking way too much about it.
Post # 3
I think Option B is great – something useful/practical and something fun and personal without spending too much. $70 is a bit much for a baby shower – save the $20 for a post-baby gift (or for something else entirely!)
Post # 4
I would go with option B, or even an option you didn’t list- something else entirely.
I don’t know where she found a high chair for $50 that would be sturdy enough to be safe, so that’s the basis for my hesitancy there.
Post # 5
What if you modified option B to be:
- Etsy Hat $20
- Practical/Cute registry item $20
- Pack of diapers $10
That way its still $50, you get to give something personal (hat), something off the registry, and something practical (diapers).
Also, look for coupons on coupons.com or target.com for diapers. I did this for a shower and was able to get a pack of premi natural diapers and wipes for about $10.
Post # 6
If you get them the high chair just realize that it’s going to sit in the closet for many months before the baby will be ready for it. If you want them to immediately use your gift, then go with the cute hat & diapers. I know it’s not a fun gift to give, but believe me, they will appreciate the diapers!
I always registered for the high chair and received it at the baby shower because I wanted it to be the same design as everything else. I didn’t want to risk the chance that if I waited until I actually needed it that it would be discontinued or something. But it does take up a lot of space and isn’t immediately necessary. Good luck, and have fun shopping!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t recommend buying the hat. I know I’m being a party pooper, but I just feel like if it were my baby shower and I had a full registry of things I needed, I’d be upset if I got a lot of clothes that were off the registry. I know those are the most fun things to buy for a new baby, but also the most personal and if the parents don’t like it the baby will never wear it.
Every baby shower I’ve attended, I”ve noticed the majority of presents are off registry clothing items. The parents to be always look less than thrilled since I’m sure 1/2 of it isn’t their taste to begin with, probably in addition to them actually needing the items on the registry.
So my response is just to buy the high chair, or a $30 gift and some diapers.
Post # 8
The high chair they registered for is a space saver version. So it straps onto a chair rather than one of those standalone types with tapered legs. I actually really like it! It’s got really great reviews on Amazon.Over like 270ppl have rated it and the average score is 4 1/2 stars I believe.
They’re going the organic route with their child, so everything on their registry reflects that. And I know she’s like me; probably did a ton of research prior to putting anything on their registry. So I won’t feel comfortable about walking into Target/BabiesRus, etc and buying a generic/store brand diaper.
I want to respect their choices, ya know?
I’m a firm believer of giving useful items with a side of fun! Which is why I want to go with Option A.
And I’m totally fine with the fact that they won’t be immediately using the high chair. I tend to buy items for newborns in the 6-9 month age range. Since I think most people like to buy the newborn, 3-6 month range. Then by the time the baby is 6months she has nothing!
Post # 9
I’d say buy some diapers. A coworker was literally just telling me how awesome it was that they didn’t have to buy diapers for the first 6 months because of the diapers she got at the shower.
And while they won’t use the highchair right away, they probably included it (like many people do) to try and avoid having to purchase big ticket items for the first year. They’ll probably start using it around 5-6 months though, so it’s not like it’ll sit in a closet for 2 years.
If you think the hat is their taste, I’d say get it. So many people it seems are so concerned with only getting what is on the registry and getting offended/hurt if people buy off registry. A hat is practical, cute and a great photo prop. I think buying off registry is nothing to get all bothered about, especially with things like clothing. I’d get more bothered by someone buying a different car seat or stroller, which is a little more specific to your needs (ie a jogging stroller that your infant seat will clip into).
We’re not registering for clothing at all, except for a few sleep sacks/swaddles and couple of really cute items we loved. I’m hoping that people go in on a few of the bigger things and that we get things we registered for, but at the same time I’m expecting many to buy off registry and to get us clothing and things. I’ll definitely be grateful for anything people buy for us.
Post # 10
Depends on their financial situation. For example, my sis and her husband NEED the stuff off their registry because money is tight. So we are trying to avoid buying cute but unnecessary items.
If they are financially ok to “clean up” the leftover registry items afterwards, then go for the hat and something else. But I vote highchair.
Post # 11
By the way, something to consider…
I bought a hat around that price point for my friend’s baby…he never wore it because his squash was too big!
Post # 12
I kinda feel like that too. which is why I am slightly reluctant to just buy the hat. As cute as it is, I would hate to spend $20 on a knit hat and have it never be used! Although on the one hand she can really love it as well!
The thing is the hat I’m looking at is a simple style. Subdue colors, nothing too crazy. And I think they would appreciate the fact that it’s handmade and not mass produced.
And if I buy the hat I will most likely buy 6-9 months size. I’ve yet to ever meet a baby that fits into ‘newborn’ clothes.
They’re not poor but not rich either. Both have full time jobs, but recently relocated, bought new house and started a new venture together. So I won’t say money is free flowing!
They are also *thinking about going the cloth diaper route but they do have both on there. Mainly cloth diapers and newborn diapers.
The other thing I would want to buy her is the boppy because I LOVE the boppy. Then I can buy that, the hat and a box of diapers for them. Would it be weird to buy the boppy and not the slipcover or assume someone else will buy the slipcover?
Post # 13
The nice thing about some small quantities of diapers (rather than the really big boxes) is that they get to try out the new products. You can do all the research in the world, but if the kid doesn’t like a certain brand of pacifiers or bottles then you have to adjust.
There are lots of different organic brand diapers out there and you can find the smaller packs for all around $10.
My friend loved these because they had a line on the outside that changed color when wet. She said it saved her a TON of extra diapers. Huggies also makes a Pure and Natural line of diapers.
These are $10 for teh 36 pack.
Post # 14
@Gerbera: The Boppy might be a great idea even if you don’t get the cover because then she can pick it out.
Post # 15
I personally thought the Boppy was something I needed and would love and NEVER used it. So that is one thing I always stay away from on a registry. I am not sure if other people are like me and didn’t find it as useful as it looked like it would be.
I say go with your gut. I personally would spend around 40-50 for the shower and then a little gift for when the baby is born. IS that maybe an option that you could do with the hat? I love to always bring a little bag to either the hospital or the house when I get to see the baby for the first time.
Post # 16
I LOVE the boppy because every person I’ve ever given it to loves it. And I myself had the pleasure of using it as well when helping with my little cousin (who is not so little anymore) and my nieces and nephews.
I can’t really go visit readily because they live out of state. But might not be a bad idea to send a small gift (the hat) when she is born. That’ll help spread the expenses out a bit!