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Which "head" table idea works best?

posted 1 year ago in Reception
  • poll: Which table lay-out for us and wedding party?
    Head table with just MOH/Date and Best Man/Date : (9 votes)
    25 %
    Modified King's table (Us at head, MOH/Date, Best Man/Date on each side) : (7 votes)
    19 %
    Modified King's table (Same as #2, but add some more bridal party members like my sisters) : (6 votes)
    17 %
    Long table of all 19 of us : (14 votes)
    39 %
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    Ngolden1    August 22, 2010   Albany, NY

    My wedding is less than two weeks and I need to make table runners ASAP. But before I can do that, I need to know the lengths of all my tables. Before I can do THAT, I need to know how our head table is going to look.  We are in a square shaped barn and using long tables, some 6 foot,some 8 foot.  We have a few ideas and can't seem to agree.  Also, we are not splitting up wedding party and their dates., and neither of us want a sweetheart of just us.  Should we:

    A. Use a six foot table and sit on one side of it, facing out, along with our MOH/date and Best Man/date. Like a modified head table (without rest of wedding party).

    B. Same idea, except the table would be long ways, and we would sit at the head facing out. Like a smaller version of a king's table (just our MOH/date, Best Man/date on each side of the table).

    C. Sane as B, we would sit at the head, but make the table slightly longer and add a few more members of the wedding party, like my sisters and dates.  This would give the effect of a real King's table. My biggest concern is whether choosing among the wedding party would hurt feelings.

    D. Have a monster table of all 19 of us (us, wedding party, dates). It would be sixteen feet by 5 feet. We could make it fit, but we would be on one side, rather than the head, so people wouldn't be able to see us.  Pros: A lot of fun, Cons: would be HUGE, (this could be a con?)

    Less than two weeks...ahhhhh

     
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    bryanneb61    May 5, 2012   Columbus, Ohio

    I voted for #3, that's personally what I would choose.  :)

     
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    messybride    November 13, 2010   Illinois

    Do you have to have the wedding party dates seated with them at the head table? That would save room, and besides the wedding party isn't seated for that long so they wouldn't be separated from their dates for a long period of time.

    My suggestion would be to include the entire wedding party with no dates.

     
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    Ngolden1    August 22, 2010   Albany, NY

    Wow, this is a pretty even split. Two questions:

    Do you think the bridal party would be offended if I chose only a couple of them to sit with us (although they would be my sisters)?

    Also, do you think it's a problem if guests can't see us (if we do the 19 person table)?

     
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    TaraS    August 20, 2011   Oregon

    I voted #4, I personally wouldn't dream of splitting the wedding party from their dates, that is my personal opinion though.

    Could you re-arrange the tables into a U shape?  That way you would be at the center, be seen, and have room for everyone.

     
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    Ngolden1    August 22, 2010   Albany, NY

    Yes I would never split up the dates. I could do an L shape, with 90 degree angles because they are all rectangular tables. I was playing around with this formation a little. It's different, but could work.

     
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    mountain.bride    December 12, 2009   Australia

    We had a sort of king's table, we were facing out to the rest of the room but not at the head and I'm sure there were guests who couldn't see us. It didn't really bother me though - they'd been looking at us all afternoon anyway! We didn't split up the bridal party from their dates but we did put some members of the bridal party at other tables (and had a couple of non-bridal party members with us). We made the decision based on who knew who and who people would have the most fun with. None of the bridal party seemed to mind. My 21 year old sister had more fun sitting with her boyfriend and same age cousins that she would have next to DH's 40 year old groomsman she'd never met before :) People are only really sitting and eating for a short period of time so try not to send yourself too crazy figuring it out!

     
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    We only sat with our brothers and then had other guests at our table, actually, bc we wanted our BP to be with their friends/dates...I think it's totally fine to have the table with a few members of your party, as long as you sit the others at a table where they know people and maybe explain beforehand...

     
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    MsBlueberryBee    January 2015  

    This might seem kinda of funny but could you do a "v"? Do two long rectanlge tables angeled and find a square to put where they meet to make a "v". That way everyone could sit with you and you would be in the center of the "v" so everyone could see you?

     
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    amberdawn1064    October 15, 2011   PA

    I dont think you should put dates at your head table. put only the wedding party there and the dates all at a table together. They all only sit down to eat anyways so I would split them up because it will look weird in pics with their dates at the head table. Everyone will not be sitting at their tables all night.

     

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