Post # 1
Hi Bees, so I finally convinced my FI to let me have a memory table at the wedding. He just lost his grandmother last year (I’ve lost both sets of grandparents and an uncle that I was really close with) and he didn’t want to upset people by having it. But, I convinced him we aren’t doing anything over the top, and its a great way to pay tribute and remember them. I found 3 quotes that I love…and FI isn’t any help on narrowing them down, so I thought I would ask you guys for help
1) Everyday in some small way
memories of you come our way.
Though absend, you are always near
still missed, loved, and always dear.
2) Those we love don’t go away
they walk beside us every day
unseen, unheard, but always there
still loved, still missed, and vey dear
3) Remember loved ones never leave
they are forever near
for their love lives on in memories
our hearts hold dear.
Thoughts and optinions? I’m also open to other suggestions if anyone has some that they want to share!
Post # 3
Do you actually need a verse? Only I’m not personally a fan of the ever-repeated combination of “near” and “dear” that seems inescapable with this type of rhyme and to be honest, it can make for a very morbid display. Would it not be enough to display the pictures of your loved ones with a simple one-line statement?
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago
@hazyleyedbeauty: I like the 2nd one. I’m so surprised that everyone seems to think honoring lost loved ones at your wedding is a horrible idea. I was slammed for wanting to do an “In Memory of” chair at the ceremony for my FI’s mom who passed away when he was 14. I think their lives should be celebrated and you should have them there with you on your day!!
Post # 6
@hazyleyedbeauty: I like #2 the best of those verses. It’s not as “rhymy”.
Post # 8
@hazyleyedbeauty: I’m doing the same in honor of my father who passed away… The poem I have selected is:
We know you’re with us here today
Your sprirt’s shining through
Thank you for your gil of Love
On this day we say, “I Do”
Post # 10
I would just put a frame with a quote that says, “In honour of those who could not be here”.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2014 - Philadelphia, PA
I voted for #1. I think it’s a really sweet idea!
Post # 12
Out of the three, I personally like #2 the best. However, if you have not already seen this one, I am using it on my programs for my dad:
We thought of you with love today but that is nothing new
We thought about you yesterday and days before that too
We think of you in silence we often speak your name
Now all we have is memories and your picture in a frame
Your memory is our keepsake with which we’ll never part
God has you in his keeping we have you in our hearts
In Loving Memory of
Good luck with everything 🙂
Post # 13
@kellynn323: I agree! Thats exactly what I said, these people are very important to me, helped make me who I am…and its my way of having them with me for the wedding though even though they cannot physically be there.
@sourcandy: Thank you! I have been kinda leaning towards this one too!
@Fanciful: This is my FI’s fav 🙂
@MrsConnolly2bee: I love this! Although when I first read it I was kinda stumped about the “gil” part haha! Gift makes a lot more sense
@MissGoldFish: Thank you 🙂
@Babyroni: That is beautiful <3
Post # 14
@Babyroni: If you don’t mind I will steal this for our memory table at the reception — fi’s dad died this summer, my g’parents have passed along with my dad so I figure a table will make it easier than anything. I havent started programs so there may be NONE ..
Post # 15
@MsDontRushME: Not at all 🙂 Good luck with everything!
Post # 16
You might want to check out Miss (now Mrs.) Scooter’s post from 9/11/13, in which she discussed ways to honor her mother at the ceremony. Some of them are very specific to an absent mother, but there are some truly lovely thoughts in the comments. I completely agree with you that a memorial of some sort is appropriate, and hope you find something that is meaningful to you and your FI.