Which is better? Afternoon Reception or Evening reception with a 5 hour gap

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What time should I have the reception?
    Afternoon Reception : (53 votes)
    74 %
    Evening Reception with 4-5 hour gap : (19 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I much prefer evening receptions and am not opposed to gaps but 5 hours would be excessive I think. Is there another Catholic church in the area you could have a later ceremony at? 

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    That is too big of a gap.  What are your guests supposed to do for five hours?

    Post # 5
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    6028 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    A 5 hour gap is  unreasonable. Do an afternoon reception.

    Post # 7
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    aileen.farrell:  Hi there! I am a fellow bride to be that had the same exact questions when my church only had an 11am time slot o_o . Needless to say, I stressed quite a bit about the timeline.

    Now I don’t know if this will work for you, but it’s really my family that has insisted on a Catholic ceremony, while I have always wanted to have an outdoor ceremony. Therefore, at 11am, we will be having the Catholic ceremony, BUT only inviting family members. Then later in the day around 4-4:30, we are inviting EVERYONE to our reception venue for a second ceremony followed by cocktail hour, dinner and dancing. We too did not want an afternoon reception, but didn’t want everyone to have to go back and find something to do for an extra 4 hours. I have a lot of family coming in from out of town, but also have a ton of family that lives in the area so it won’t be hard for them to find something to do! In fact, everyone will probably congregate at my parents’ house for some food and good times 🙂

    I know that this option may not work out for everyone, but I do realize how difficult it can be when it comes to a Catholic ceremony.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Gaps are horrible and rude to your guests. DON’T DO IT. Seriously. They are the worst.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    As a guest, I would hate the gap. It takes up the whole day and you have to stay dressed up/looking nice all during the gap or do it all over again–I know this may sound petty but it’s how I would feel.  I wouldn’t be opposed to an afternoon reception.  Though it sounds like cnguyen1104:  has an awesome idea if it works.

    Post # 12
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    202 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    aileen.farrell:  Hi there! Fellow Catholic bride here.  I know you already came up with great ideas in this thread, but I thought I would offer up the solution FI and I came to.  We actually got special permission from the bishop in our diocese to have the wedding ceremony when we wanted it.  Maybe the bishop in your diocese would do the same for you?

    Post # 13
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    aileen.farrell:  Ahh, try to push for it if you can! We are trying to keep it to just close family as it’s really only my family that’s Catholic. So what we’re doing is printing the Catholic ceremony information on a separate card that we will just insert into family’s invitations. 

    My mom thought it was a little unnecessary as well, but my fiance and I had our hearts set on an outdoor wedding, an evening reception and trying as much as possible to minimize the gap. Once we knew what our wants were, we just had to find a way to do it and stand our ground!

    Another thing to consider is the percentage of your guest list that is Catholic. Mine will just be my side of the family which is very large, but there’s still a large chunk of individuals that won’t understand what’s going on.

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    aileen.farrell:  5hrs is a long gap. But….now that I think of it that is what I am doing :p.

    We are doing a 12:30 ceremony and a 5:30 reception. However at 3:00 we are hosting a snacks and refreshment session. We didn’t want to do the whole handshaking and hugging after the ceremony so we figured we would go straight into pictures. Then we can go to the little cocktail hr at 4:00 or 4:30 and visit with people there instead. We will have some games, it is also free fishing so we figure with a few hrs people might want to fish off the dock for a bit. Then start the reception later on.

    I am not worried…I know a lot of people here are against the gap but it is so common in Canada. Every wedding I have ever been to has it because I have never been to an evening ceremony! Then the receptions start at 5 or 6pm…and go until 2am. 😀 all good.

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