Post # 1
You HAVE to choose one or the other. You can’t say NEITHER, and there are NO OTHER OPTIONS. It’s between these two men. Think of it like this… you meet a guy, you fall in love, he’s a great guy for you with the exception of one of these things. Which guy’s glaring fault are you willing to overlook? Let’s assume all else is equal between these two guys.
Post # 3
No children. Total dealbreaker. You can fix the money situation – not the kids.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
@Reign14: Well, there’s nothing to say that the guy with no money will never have money, or that you couldn’t build up some savings together.
Post # 5
no children and no money. we can build together.
Post # 6
eh, children is okay, but not with multiple baby mamas thats for sure! lol
Money can always be made =)
Post # 7
Children are okay, but not with multiple mothers. That screams irresponsibility to me. Money isn’t an issue.
Post # 8
I don’t need a man to have money, I make my own. Would never want to date someone with a baby momma, let alone multiple baby momma’s. I also wouldn’t consider having multipe children a “glaring fault”. If the guy with no money had no money because he was a financial idiot with tons of debt, then I’d go the other way.
Post # 9
Wow, I am surprised at how drastically skewed the answers are to one side! I thought it’d be more even… some women wouldn’t mind children and baby mamas if their man is paid vs. some women don’t place so much emphasis on the man having money and would rather not have the baggage.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
Definitely the guy with no children and no money. My FI and I started dating in highschool so I’m used to being in a relationship with a student with ‘no money’. We can build savings and a family together. I would not want to deal with baby mama drama aha.
Post # 11
The thing that make the decision easy for me was the multiple baby mamas. Without that, I would have chosen the first guy.
Post # 12
if he has enough money he can pay them off and disappear.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I’m not sure if I would ever be open to dating a man with children at all, let alone MULTIPLE baby mamas. Without that word I miiiight have chosen option 1.
Post # 14
I can say neither becuase there are more men out there who are NOT like these examples!
Post # 15
@Reign14: I voted for the man with money and children. And not because he has money. A PP said that multiple mothers screams irresponsibility– granted, we are all talking about a fake scenario, but I am going to assume that when you say he has money– it’s substantial. And the fact that someone has and can maintain money means that he’s probably responsible–
My dad (extrememly respnsible and has lots of money!!) has my sister and I with my mom, and my half bro with my stepmom, who he has been married to for TWENTY years in April. What if my stepmom passed away. Does that mean because my dad has three children with 2 different mothers he’s irresponsible? Absolutely not.
I also had a kid before I got married- so I would never say children are a reason to not be with anyone- I’d be a hypocrite!!
I think these kinds of questions are fun, but they are also impossible to truly answer. You don’t know what you’d do until you fell in love with someone.
Post # 16
@Ellicott: OP said you can’t say “neither”– that was the point of this.