Post # 1
I am confused on how to put my name for… oh let’s say everything. I have always gone by my middle name and that is what all my closest family and friends call me. Even my FI calls me by my middle name. Here’s an example. I.E. My first name is Charlena, middle name Latoya but everyone calls me “Toya”. So technically I go by my nickname that is a part of my middle name. Should my use my “T” for Toya or my “C” for Charlena when I do my monograms on the invitations, decorations, wedding cake, etc.? Which name should I ask the officiant to say during the ceremony? I already know that I am just going to add my FI’s last name to mine, so I will have First Name, Middle Name, Maiden Name, Married Name once all is said and done. I will not be dropping my middle name. It’s who I am!
Post # 3
Your going to have soooo many names lol.
Your officiant should address you as your real first name as your real first name you will have to sign on the register.
Your invitations could have either your real first initial or your preferred initial. If it was me I would have the initial that everyone knows me as on the monogram and inside I would have typed Miss Charlene Latoyah “Toya” Smith or whatever your last name is. Don’t be afraid to use both names on the invitation as it will make some people think “Wow I never knew her first name wasn’t Toya”, I think this is a good thing 🙂
Post # 4
@Irish-bride: Cool idea! I never thought of it that way. Thanks for the advise!
Post # 5
Ok lets see if I can clear some of this up for you.
1- Officiant, more than likely will say your complete LEGAL NAME (a requirement in most jurisdictions) when getting married
2- Monograms on Invitations, Decorations, Wedding Cake etc… for the Invitations they generally use a most formal salutation… so all your given names (same as what the Officiant will say)
Everything else, you can do as you please. Personally, I’d opt for “T” for Toya as that is what everyone knows you as. If your last name is Brown… it would therefore be TB (informal) or CLB (formal)
So for example… naming situations…
Toya & Paul = T&P = Mr & Mrs Paul Jones = Toya & Paul Jones = TJP (couples monogram)
Your formal married monogram could be… CLBJ or a long variety of other options… see this interesting recent topic by MRS SNOW CONE on her personal Blog = http://strawberryblondelife.blogspot.ca/2012/03/no-monogram-love.html and also a follow up that she links to = http://monogrammomma.blogspot.ca/2007/02/reader-requests-four-letter.html
Between them, I believe they have all the possibilities covered
Hope this helps,
Post # 6
@This Time Round: Awesome! Thanks for the links and the examples. You have given me some ideas of how I want to go about the monograms.