(Closed) Which program wording is better?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Which wording is better for the program?
    Option 1 : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Option 2 : (10 votes)
    43 %
    Neither, both are offensive-Not my intent so I hope not... please share with me how I can change it : (5 votes)
    22 %
    Neither, I have a suggestion below. : (7 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I would say option 2.  The first sounds too rigid and verbose for me.  Option 2 just states the facts and gives people their options.

    I will point out though that this really may be unneccesary.  All Catholics should know the requirements of receiving communion, and all others will know they should not come up to receive communion.  I’m protestant and I’ve been to my fair share of Catholic weddings (including one just this past Saturday) and I have never had a hard time following along despite not having a mention of the “rules” in the program.

    Post # 4
    761 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I would not have such a huge explanation, in my experience people will only go up and take communion if they have in the past. I personally am baptized Catholic but when attending other denominations services (wedding, confirmation etc) have not gone up to take communion as I was unsure of their procedure. I would leave it up to your guest to make the decision that best suits their beliefs.

    Post # 5
    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I agree with some of the other posters, if you have to, I’d go with option 2, but honestly I don’t think it’s necessary. I would be less wordy, if anything, something like:

    – Catholics in good standing are welcome to receive the Eucharist. All other denominations are welcome to receive a blessing… etc.

    It seems like it might be a little offensive to point out exactly what you have to do to receive communion, baptized Catholics should be aware of all of these things.

    Just my two cents (from a lapsed Catholic) 🙂

    Post # 6
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think the first version is a little easier to understand/want to read. I was reading the second one and kind of started to gloss over and feel like, “ugh, I’m not catholic, this isn’t relevant to me….” which is NOT the reaction you want your guests to have, since this is especially to help them understand the significance!

    Maybe instead of saying “for [whichever group]” you could change it to “A note to our [group] friends” or something like that? And I would swap the last 2 sections, since the non-Chrisitian section kind of spells out who can’t take communion, and then the “for those not taking communion” section tells them what to do. Tell them who they are before you tell them what to do! If that makes sense. 🙂

    Post # 7
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Agree with above. Both options seem a bit verbose… but option 2 is definitely better than option 1. 

    Post # 8
    1675 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I really feel like this can be achieved in a much more concise fashion. As a lapsed Catholic myself (I no longer identify myself as Catholic and have converted to Protestantism, but am still very familiar with the Catholic faith), I think it’s fair to say that most Catholics, lapsed or otherwise, know the rules that surround Communion. And, to be honest, I would not have time to read the lengthy explanations if I was also trying to pay attention to your Mass.

    I agree with@OttawaBride2011: and think that something simple like, “Catholics in good standing are welcome to receive the Eucharist. All other denominations are welcome to receive a blessing… etc.” would be sufficient in getting your point across.

    Post # 9
    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think that they are both a bit too long.  

    I think that Catholics who are receiving communion know whether or not they can receive at the time.  I think that you should just put the note from Option 2: 

    The Church kindly encourages non-Catholics and those Catholics who are not presently disposed to receive the Eucharist to express in their hearts a prayerful desire for unity with the Lord Jesus and with one another. If you would like to, please come forward, cross your arms over your heart/chest, and receive a blessing from the Priest.

    Thank you for your respect in this matter and please remain sitting or kneeling until the priest sits in his chair following communion. This is to honor our Lord who is physically present to us in communion.

    Post # 10
    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    I also agree with all the others, #2 is the best option but both seem a bit wordy.  I like #2 better because it stays focused on the Catholic beliefs, whereas #1 at first reading seemed like it was focusing too much on negativity and interpreting other faiths and honestly has stuff that as a Presbyterian I don’t agree with – my understanding of unity in the Catholic sense, at least according to Pope Benedict, though maybe not Pope John Paul II, has come off as a bit of a scold to protestants. 


    And I’m happy with my faith so I would be a bit offended if in the packet there was something that was kinda a euphamism for pray to become Catholic. 

    Post # 11
    185 posts
    Blushing bee

    I agree with the pp that both are somewhat oppresive and just sort of an odd “tone” for a wedding program.  I’d go with the option outlined above or something similar:

    Catholics in good standing are welcome to receive the Eucharist. All other denominations are welcome to receive a blessing.

    Personally, it sounds like you are going out of your way to be exclusive of non-Catholics.  I realize and understand that is not your intent, but to me it comes across that way. 

    Post # 12
    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @OttawaBride2011:  I think that is PERFECT wording!  I will be borrowing it for my own programs.  I have been debating how to word that without offending non-catholics but without being too verbiose.  Great advice!

    Post # 13
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Maybe your situation is different, but in every Catholic wedding I’ve been at or in, it seemed that everyone there knew whether or not they should go to receive the communion or not already. These sort of seem like lectures for your wedding guests and personally, they would make me feel a little uncomfortable ( I’m not religious). 

    If you do want to give some sort of direction, I would keep it very simply and friendly… maybe something along the lines of, “We encourage those who are Catholics in good standing to receive the communion and for those who do not feel they can or wish to receive it to pray with us, ect.”- something like that. Can you tell I’m not religious? Haha. I really think people will be able to figure out what they should do based on something like that. If you do use one of your options instead though, I would go with the second one, because it’s not as harsh and lecture-like as the first one. Just from my point of view though, the lengthy directives would make me feel a little put-off. Good luck!

    Post # 14
    377 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I agree with shyviolet and others about keeping the wording very simple. I don’t think I’d read an explanation as long as the ones you have posted, because I’d probably be more interested in watching the ceremony instead.

    Post # 15
    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I would go with a more simple explanation or as I’ve seen at a couple other weddings, have the priest explain before Communion begins – Catholics are welcome to come forward and all other religions feel free to come forward for a blessing (or something more prettily worded).

    Post # 15
    1 posts

    KLP2010:  I know this may be a long shot but I am doing my wedding program right now and would love to have all you discribed in your program. Is there anyway I can see what yours looks like? 

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