Post # 1
For our actual wedding invites, we’ll be inviting cousins + SOs + their children. For the formal invites, we’ll put all of the names on the envelope.
But what about save the dates? For married couples and their children who all share a name, “The Lastname Family” is obvious. But what about unmarried couples?
For example, we have cousin, her live-in boyfriend, and her son. All will be invited. Should I address the STD to just cousin? Cousin and family? Cousin and SO and family? I want my guests to know from the start that everyone is welcome, but listing out every name (especially a year in advance for a couple who isn’t engaged) seems like overkill.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
@jdhall89: do you have room on the envelope to write, “sally and billy smith and john boyfriend”?
I got lucky in this situation because the “kid” is (almost) over 18, so she just got her own save the date.
ETA: if the kid is young, you could just address it to the mom and boyfriend and address the kid later on the actual invitation
Post # 4
Luckily, we don’t have any kids to worry about! For the unmarried couples who live separately, I’m sending one to each person. For the ones who live together, I’m writing out both names on separate lines. For married couples with different last names I squeezed both names on the same line.
In your situation, I’d probably address the STD
Your Cousin and family
But, that’s just what makes sense to me. I don’t know, etiquette-wise, what would be correct.
Post # 5
You could do what my family used to do on my aunt and uncle’s christmas gifts. They are married, she kept her last name, and has two sons from a previous marriage. That makes 3 last names on 4 people in one household. My parents’ reaction when addressing things to their house was to simply write, “Charlie & Co.” It always got there and everyone found it amusing. Not formal at all, but it worked. We went a similarly informal route on our save the date postcards. As long as they got to the right household, we didn’t worry about the finer points of addressing.
Post # 6
@jdhall89: i put everyone on the STD who will be getting an invitation
Mr and Mrs Smith and thier 24 year old son who lives at home received two at that address, one to the parents and one to the son. Same with invitation, 2 will be going to that address.
Mr Smith and 16 year old son. One STD with Father’s name on first line, son’s name on second line.
That was probably most complicated.
Address to Smith Family if everyone is household is invited.
If over 18, each person should received their own invitaiton and STD unless they are being invited with an SO.
hope that makes sense.
Post # 7
Thanks for the suggestions so far!
For clarity, the children are young (all under 10).