Post # 1
I’m addressing invitations and need some help. The RSVP envelopes will come back to me and FI. However, what about the invitation outer envelopes? FMIL wants it to be her address for her friends, our address for our friends, my parents’ address for their friends. I thought that it’s too complicated. Btw, both sets of parents are hosts.
Post # 3
That sounds too complicated. Especially when you think about keeping track of all those RSVPs from three different mail boxes. I say just put your address on it and if FMIL asks tell her it was too complicated.
Post # 4
Who really looks at the return address on the invite? I put my address even though my parents were technically hosting. That made the most sense since I was sending them out. And then I was the one to receive the few back that the post office had problems with the address.
If she is insisting then I would just do it. The only problem I can see is if anyone selects a gift off of your registry and sends it themselves. They might not know which address to use. That would seem rare.
ETA: How are you writing out the return address? Stamped, label, or handwritten? If the return address is anything other than label I would tell her forget it.
Post # 5
Wayyyy too much hassle. Just use the same address for all of them.
Post # 5
@JoJo Bananas:I think she still plans to use her address for the RSVP’s. Her FMIL thinks the invitation envelope should have the 3 sets of return addresses.
Post # 6
I think that would get VERY confusing – both in trying to put the invitations together to mail out (this person gets this return envelope…this person gets this return envelope) and it would also be more difficult to keep track of the ones coming in. i would just explain that to FMIL and have all of them sent to you.
After seeing some of the responses, maybe I’m misunderstanding? The actual invitation RSVP? To me, that should be ONE address, the SAME address on all of them.
Post # 7
I can see what she’s getting at, but just put your own address. Some people may check the mail, look at the return address and think “who do I know at 123 Main Street” but they’ll open it anyway and see your lovely invitations and after that, the envelope goes in the trash.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for such quick responses. Yes, vabride2011 nailed it. FMIL is afraid her friends won’t recognize the address on the envelope and won’t open it because they don’t know us.
Post # 9
@Cola262: I would address them all to you…way to confsuing the other way
Post # 10
If your FMIL wanted the RSVPs sent to you, her, and your parents that would be too much – so while it is a bother, I don’t think its that big of a deal for you to put her address on the envelope (but then again if you put yours, nobody really looks anyways)
Plus, I don’t think her fear is valid that they would toss it, esp if they recognize her son’s name on the return address.