- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
Hi guys, sorry for cross posting… I posted to the Ring board, but I figured you waiting bees would have a completely different perspective on this and I would love your opinions since you’ve all been so supportive! You may have seen me post a few days ago about my dilemma; SO has a family ring he wants to use when we get engaged, but my late mother also has a ring we could use. I was worried I wouldn’t like his family ring, but I also wasn’t sure how my dad would feel about me using my mom’s ring, so I figured using his family ring would be the easiest thing.
I saw his family ring. It is gorgeous. However, he also called my dad to declare his intentions, and my dad offered my mom’s ring, which does make a big difference to me. I am so stuck!
His family ring is from the art-deco period (the marriage took place in about 1930, give or take a year or two). It is small and dainty, with the stones set in platinum or white gold and with a yellow gold band. I love rings from this period, but I am concerned that my big “man hands” won’t look good with such a dainty set. Pictures are following: it is too small and doesn’t fit yet 😛
I don’t have pictures of my mom’s ring. My mom’s ring isn’t particularly to my taste, but it would be so sweet to wear her ring, especially with all of the significance it has to me. Knowing that it is a symbol of my dad’s blessing is sweet as well. Her ring is a 3-stone trellis set ring in yellow gold with a stepped (one step) band It doesn’t have any small delicate detail like the art-deco ring does, though the band is wider and the stones are larger; I’m not super into “bling”, necessarily, but I wonder if the size of the ring would fit the scale of my hand better, even though it feels much less like “me” and my style. The matching wedding band is a 5-stone partial eternity band.
I don’t think taking both rings and switching between is an option (believe me, I’ve thought of that…) although SO is fine with me “upgrading” to something I pick out on my own in a few years’ time. I cannot mix and match the sets; they do not go together at all. What to do!? And I really do want to use one of the sets, I do not want to look for a new ring at this time.
Thanks guys, I just need help. I feel like his family ring is more fun, mine is more meaningful, and it’s like comparing apples to oranges!