Post # 1
Hi Bees – so I know this decision will have to be up to my FI and I, but I would love some other perspectives (and honestly, FI isn’t too much help because he’d get married on our front porch if I wanted to).
Basically…I’m stuck between 2 venues.
Venue #1 is my “dream venue.” I have wanted to get married there since I was a little girl. It is an absolutely beautiful venue with everything I desire – a great outdoor ceremony site and an “indoor/outdoor” reception site. It’s also about 1 mile from my childhood home… a very sentimental location to me.
Venue #2 is another really nice venue which I stumbled upon. It is also beautiful and offers a nice outdoor ceremony site and a pretty reception site.
Honestly, these venues are head to head in a lot of things. They’re both a good, convenient locations. They’re both pretty and unique. They both offer good food. They both have great reputations and I like the coordinators.
Venue # 1 just has some weird hold on me. I feel very drawn to it. It is within our budget, but would certainly be a large chunk of it. It would probably mean cutting out some extras like a late night snack or a photobooth. Venue #2 is well below what I’d budgeted, meaning I’d have room for a lot of fun extras – the “s’more” station I wanted to do, high-end liquor, a better dress…etc.
I’m a pretty practical person, so a large part of me says the smart thing to do would be to go for the less expensive venue so that I can personalize the wedding with things both my FI and I want.
What would YOU do? If you’re already married, did you find the venue to be the most important? Or was it more about the details of the day? (Obviously…aside from the fact that I’m marrying my best friend…at least that choice was easy!)
Post # 3
@MsMonkey: honestly the venue is very important IMO. It will be in every single photo you have whereas a s’mores station or photo booth will not. I would nicks the photobooth and s’mores and have the venue you’ve dreamt about since you were small:)
Post # 4
@Firemansgirl: I agree! The venue is so important! go with the one of your dreams!
Post # 5
@MsMonkey: After the right groom, the right venue is the most important thing in my opinion! I wouldn’t even hesitate for a second to trade extra late night food or a photo booth for my dream location. It has a hold on you for a reason- listen to your heart!
Post # 6
@MsMonkey: As long as you arent having to do things like have a cheaper photographer (or no photog) or making major cuts to the food and bev budget, then I say go for your dream venue. I had mine at my dream venue (luckily there was no competition!) and I love looking at the pics. Totally worth it!
Post # 7
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
Me personally I would always choose the budget friendly location. But I have been a little frugal when it comes to my wedding spending. So of course I would say if both locations are pretty equal the go for the one that is a bit cheaper. Yea you only get married once and you should have your dream wedding….however, I have been to weddings were the venue was the bride’s dream since she was a little girl so she spent $15 grand on the venue and its in house caterer. And it was a basic reception!
Is it possible to post pics of the venues??
Post # 9
Thanks everyone for your answers so far. These are the 2 venues:
“Dream” Venue –
The Manor House
– This is a venue I’ve loved since I was a little girl. There’s a gorgeous outdoor ceremony site, as well as PLENTY of spaces to take some gorgeous pictures. We would get exclusive use of the venue, including the inside of the historic home, outside, and the tent for dinner/dancing. Pricewise, we could afford a plated dinner and open bar (which we want) but we would have to probably cut a “late night snack” and perhaps the photobooth. We could still afford good photography, dress, invitations, etc.
Venue # 2 is Pines at Genesee
– This venue also has a nice outdoor site and a nice indoor site with space. There isn’t as much room outside as I would like for the photographs. I also don’t love that it’s not exclusive use of venue (they can have up to 2 weddings at the same time). It doesn’t sound like there’s a ton of “cross-over” between weddings, but I still don’t love it. It’s a very nice venue and very affordable. We can bring in our own liquor, which saves a ton of money. We could easily afford our desired dinner + a midnight snack, photobooth… just many extras.
Post # 10
Thanks to those that answered! We ended up going with the “dream” venue. So excited!
Post # 11
“Dream venue” is amazing! 🙂
You made a wonderdul choice!