Post # 1
FI and I went to look at more wedding bands today… so now I have pictures of my options. What’s your favorite? *Please read the alterations that would be made to each band!* Also, whichever band I choose will be sautered to the engagement ring.
I have a slight favorite, but am still pretty torn. I want to hear some critiques!
1: Matching band. I think it’s beautiful close up, but from a distance I feel like it’s too much and it hides the engagement ring.
2: Contour pave band. Would make it in rose gold, change it to shared prong, and possibly have slightly larger stones. This is my favorite kind of wedding set.
3: Plain rose gold band. I love the way it brings out the rose gold and brings attention to the engagement ring.
4: Plain rose gold band, contoured exactly like #2. (No picture yet.) Same pros as #3 but I think I prefer the contour.
5: Straight pave band. Would be in rose gold, shared prong, and possibly slightly larger stones. My favorite kind of wedding set, but I’m not sure I love it straight with my particular ring.
6: Channel-set band. Would be in rose gold. I think it coordinates without being too “matchy,” but it seems a little ordinary.
Post # 3
I think it depends on the “feeling” you want. For example, a plain rose gold band (even the contoured one) might make the whole set feel simple and understated. The straight bands with diamonds add a nice sense of balance and distinctness, while the contoured bands might make the rings feel more like a unit and give a sense of “flow.”
If it were me, I’d definitely choose a band with diamonds to complement the number of stones in your engagement ring. For me, the wedding band is the more important ring, so I’d want it to have just as much “showstopper” quality as my engagement ring.
The more I compare, the more I like the look of the pave bands, straight or contoured. Without having a “border,” it kind of offsets the detail surrounding the diamonds on your engagement band.
You might also talk to your jeweller to see if there’s a style of band that’s better for soldering, or if one style holds up better than another. You’re going to be wearing it for a long time! 🙂
Post # 4
I voted for the matching band! IMO it looks the best by far!
Post # 5
I agree it depends on the style you want. I love the matching band with it and the vintage feel. But I also voted for the straight pave because I think it matches well but gives a slightly more modern vibe. Then the plain band could make it a bit more classic-looking. All depends on your taste!
Post # 6
@stevefraye: Wow. THANK YOU for such detailed opinions!
Based on your description, the contour pave band sounds most like my style – making the rings a unit with a sense of flow. I like to be unique, but not flashy, and I love when the rings look like they just belong together (even if they are mismatched).
I don’t know if I could rank engagement ring more or less important than the wedding band, but I definitely hold them at least equivalent. I don’t want the engagement ring detracting from the wedding band, or vice versa, which is probably why I’m not sure about the matching set. It seems a little overkill to me.
I really appreciate your thoughts about the band diamonds offsetting the e-ring detail. That is something I’m concerned with.
Could you possibly give me your thoughts on the matching band? You are so thorough and detail-oriented, I just have to ask. 🙂
Post # 7
@gangqinjia: Haha, sure! Glad you found my thoughts helpful. I tend to have a lot of opinions so here’s another long post for you! (eek)
I agree with you, #1 looks very matchy — but that is sort of the point of the matching band, lol. 🙂 They look like they belong together, no question, but — and I hope your FI won’t take this the wrong way — I read that he designed the wedding band to match the e-ring — I think you’re right, it’s a little too much. To me, they almost seem to be competing with one another since the design is so strong. I don’t know that I agree with @LittleMsPumpernickel that they look vintage. I think it would look more so if the design of the rings was vintage, but I think you have a more modern look going on. The fact that they match might be more retro, but not necessarily their look.
The other question is, would you ever regret not going with the band he designed? From what I read, it doesn’t seem like he minds which ring you choose, but I’m the type to get stupid sentimental about that kind of thing.
Anyway, #2 was the combination I was first drawn to when I saw your post — but I think the overall point of this long-windedness is that you should go with your gut. Maybe this technique would help? I saw it on a thread about dresses, but it could apply here. Just close your eyes and envision the ring your fiance is slipping on your finger during your vows — the ring you imagine showing off to your family and friends who maybe couldn’t make the wedding — the ring that finds its way into all the future birthday and holiday and even day-to-day pictures. I’ve been trying to do this with as many wedding decisions as possible. It really helps me eliminate regret!
Post # 8
@stevefraye: I don’t think I will regret it. I have the engagement ring he designed, that’s the one he really cared about. He said he just didn’t know what to do about the wedding band (and silly boy thought he had to propose with both. LOL).
I will definitely think on that scenario.
Do you think band #2 looks like it belongs with my e-ring? Or does it look out of place?
Post # 9
Seeing them all on, I really like the contour pave band actually. Especially if itll be in rose gold. I don’t think you could go wrong here though, they all look really great. 🙂
Post # 10
Good for you! No regrets. : ) I don’t think the contour pave looks out of place at all! That was my first pick. I like how the curve of it mimics the curve of the setting on the e-ring. Complements without overpowering or detracting. Was that one the favorite you mentioned? That one is my favorite, but honestly the plain one is the only one I feel doesn’t belong with your ring at all. The rest all do it some sort of justice — I just think the contour pave does it the most justice. But again, it’s important you do what makes you happy and what you feel in your gut. I’m just an innocent commenter lol.
Post # 11
I still love the matching band (have seen your previous posts) but if I had to pick a different one from your choices, I`d say the plain rose gold band. It shows off your e-ring nicely.
Post # 12
Love the first picture! It’s gorgeous with the matching band!!
Post # 13
I do not care for the contour band look. I think your matching band looks the best, and my second favorite would be plain rose gold, but I think it needs to be thinner than the one in the picture. 1.5-2 mm max. All the rest just seem a little too random to me, like you couldn’t find one that matched so you just picked one lol.
Post # 14
@stevefraye: Yes, I think the contour pave is my favorite. Although I can’t seem to stop waffling back and forth. Mismatched sets were never what I imagined when I was a little girl, so it’s a new idea for me. And the matching set is so beautiful… seperately. But I want to wear my rings together so what’s a girl to do? LOL!
Post # 15
Please wear the matching band, they look so gorgeous together and personally I don’t think your other options even come close. Plus your FI designed it. I do like the plain rose gold band as well though – I wondered whether you would like the matching band better if you put a plain rose band in the middle so it was slightly further from your e-ring? Just an idea.
If you don’t wear the matching band though, you could always send it to me hehe :p