Which wedding traditions are you NOT including in your wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
3112 posts
Sugar bee

@Mokara:  We didn’t do flowers for Mary during the mass.  And I walked down the aisle alone (dad didn’t come to the wedding).

Post # 4
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Mokara:  no bouquet or garter toss for us!  I never cared to be on the other end of a bouquet toss so that fact there there is only 1 single girl on my invite list of 150 sort of clinches it.  I would NEVER do that to her.  The rest of the singles are kids.  Same with the garter actually – I asked Mr. S if he wanted to but only 2 guys are single so…

Post # 5
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Well, we are having a very secular ceremony, so that’s very much against traditions here.

No speeches as well.

My real father is not walking me down the aisle.. both my mother & her husband are.

Post # 6
2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We will not be doing the bouquet or garter toss. I won’t even wear a garter. I wish we didn’t have to do the dances either but my dad and FI’s mom want to do it 🙁 I don’t like to dance. 


Post # 7
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Stevens Estate

No garter or flower toss for me either..I won’t have many single ladies at the wedding

Post # 8
1372 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

No garter toss! Like you said, the idea of him sticking his face up my dress in front of everyone does not sit well with me!!

No chairs! Hay bales for the ceremony. Totally not traditional but I’m excited!

No maid of honour, just bridesmaids. I refuse to make one my “favourite”

Id love to say no speeches but I’m sure someone will make one anyways. I’m sure my step dad is going to say some embarassing shit!

No cake, just cupcakes (many flavours!) and as such no cake cutting.

Combining first dances with parents, and dancing with my dad first then having my step-dad cut in. So not totally leaving them out but slightly modified.

No (or minimal) flowers. Fruit centre pieces (whole fruit in vases) and greenery?(<—still at drawing board)


Post # 10
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We’re not doing the bouquet and garter toss or a cake cutting (we’ll have Costco sheet cake in the back, but we realized that NO ONE wants to watch us cut an overpriced cake haha)

Post # 11
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We’re doin speeches at the rehearsal dinner. We’re doing an anniversary dance instead of bouquet/garter toss. 

Honestly, I’m a very traditional person (most people don’t believe it because I’m very outside the box, but it’s true) marrying a very nontraditional person. On top of that, we’re accomodating different religions, different cultures, different expectations. So overall, we’re having the most traditional, unconventional wedding ever.

Post # 12
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We aren’t doing any speeches other than a thank you speech to finish off the wedding, I don’t want to be a tomato face when my FFIL decides to make a wise ass joke about me to embarrass me. 

There is certainly no garter toss – that just seems inappropriate to me on so many levels as it is largely older relatives there. We also are not tossing my bouqet as it is a DYI project that I really want to keep! Plus my sister is the only one at the wedding who won’t be married – so it would be awkward anyways.

We’re not having a big cake but rather 3-4 smaller cakes (not by choice – caterer has dibs on the cake and she can’t make a wedding cake!). We probably won’t even be cutting the cake (considering a fake cut for pictures) as the caterer wants to have all the slices cut before the reception even begins.

No dances with parents. My family and I are not dancers and it would be really awkward, the only reason we are having dancing at all is because all of my high school dances were cancelled and FI and I have never danced together at any kind of function before!

Post # 13
4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We didn’t do the whole removal of the garter because my DH thought it was the weirdest thing. We still tossed it, but no public removal.

Post # 14
47 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

We are having just a dinner after the ceremony so no speeches, no garter (not even wearing one) or bouquet tossing, no presents, no dancing. I’m really not sure that I even want a bouquet – what is the point of it?

No processional since there’s no bridal party. I’m not even sure I want to walk down the aisle (I’m considering having he and I enter from opposite sides and walk towards each other). There’s only a handful of guests and all are my immediate family (and the dog lol).

I’m not sure on the cake. I don’t really like cake that much.

Post # 15
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Mokara: I’m Vietnamese, and here’s what we did.

  • No attendants
  • My Caucasian groom wore an Ao Dai like me, which was HIS idea
  • My brother “officiated” (marrying couples are allowed to marry themselves in Colorado, which ultimately is how it is recorded on our certificate)
  • Provided transportation of all 50 guests into the mountains for our ceremony, and back down for the reception, which was not held at a Chinese restaurant but in the garden of a B&B instead.
  • We did a super-modified, shortened tea ceremony, but it was more of a nod to my Vietnamese parents than trying to conform to any tradition.
  • No planned speeches except from my father and B-I-L (both asked at the last minute, so we said “Sure!”)
  • No bouquet/garter toss.
  • DH and I paid for all aspects of our DW ourselves, including family’s lodging.

Post # 16
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

No tosses of anything either. And I would prefer no first dance but my mom convinced my fiancé… ugh. 

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