- 2 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015 - Aloft Hotel
My fiance and I were in the process of planning a traditional wedding in May but got overwhelmed with money, stress, and indecision and decided to do something simple this October instead. The plan was to rent out a nice house in Kansas City (half way between us and his family) and play board games, grill out, and just enjoy spending time with one another. Should be simple enough, right?
Well, every time I mention the “W” word either the venue decides they don’t want to host our event or they want to charge us an astronomical amount of money. At this point we have been through 8 different venues that have done this. It’s so frustrating, because we were having a big wedding that needed all the bells and whistles but at this point we just want a cool place to hang out, so no I don’t think charging an extra thousand dollars than any other event is fair. Anyway, we took a trip to Kansas City yesterday to look at a few places and we are feeling very underwhelmed. Here are the facts:
1. The house we stay at is important because A. we want a community feel with the people we’re staying with and B. we’re having the rehearsal dinner at the house to help cut back on costs. The house we put a deposit down on is a lot less nice in person than in pictures. In fact, in a gorgeous neighborhood of 9’s and 10’s it’s a 5 or a 6. We thought the house we reserved would have more of a backyard and more of a private space but it doesn’t so we’d have to host the reception elsewhere.
2. The only place we called that doesn’t charge more than 2 grand is a rec center. It’s a very nice rec center! But still, it’s a rec center and we’d have to share it with the entire community plus a family reunion going on the same day. I have family coming in from half way across the country, and to stay at an ok house and then have a wedding reception in a rec center seems like they might as well have just stayed at home. Would you be pissed if you got on a plane for a wedding like this?
3. We’ve contacted a couple of other nicer places but they are considerably more expensive per night and they want to charge an event fee. The wedding we were planning at the original house was about $1200 for the weekend. Doing it at a nicer lodge would be about $2,600 if they still refuse to budge on price.
4. Our budget is 6k for the entire weekend (including rehearsal dinner and bach parties) and we’re expecting about 45 people. We could stretch our budget to about 8k, but that would mean going into debt and crossing our fingers we’ll pay it off the next month.
5. My brother and his girlfriend have already bought plane tickets, reserved a hotel, and got a rental car. We really don’t want to consider options outside of the Kansas City area in October.
I’ve highlighted our options above in the poll, vote away! I’m about *this* close to eloping.