Which wedding? Would you be pissed? Poll!

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: Which wedding?
    The cheap house and rec center won't be so bad! People make the event, not the space. : (18 votes)
    35 %
    Give up on trying to keep family together. Get a nice hotel block and keep it at the rec center. : (7 votes)
    13 %
    Go into a bit of debt and try to do things a bit nicer at the lodge. You only get one wedding. : (11 votes)
    21 %
    This wedding isn't happening in October. Push it back to May. : (8 votes)
    15 %
    Elope : (6 votes)
    12 %
    I'll write in another option you're not considering in the comments : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Honestly, I would not go into debt over the wedding. I know many brides do, but it is one day and I think many people lose sight of what the day is about (not saying you are!). Think about who you and FI are and what type of event you want. It sounds like you want it to be a relaxed celebration, I don’t see anything wrong with the smaller house or rec center. With your guest list being on the smaller side, I would assume it is strictly close family and friends. They will love you and be happy to celebrate your day regardless of the location. Hope everything works out for you, deep breath! 

    ADD: You said you got stressed over the money and planning which is why you moved it up. You are doing it again! Stop it! Do what makes you happy. 🙂

    Post # 3
    599 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    If you’re okay with a casual feel (and it seems you are), have you thought about renting out a park in the area? We contemplated that here but decided it was a little too “DIY” for us but parks are sometimes free or pretty cheap and have playground equipment (for kiddos) and grass and shade to spread out and have a big party.

    Post # 4
    1881 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    can you back out of the house rental and try to find something that better meets your needs (ie back yard space)… technically you aren’t hosting a wedding there just the rehearsal? so just say its a family party leave out all wedding talk

    Post # 5
    42182 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    As a guest I would not care what venue you used. I have been to weddings in community halls, barns, backyards and the nicest 5 star hotels. This is an issure you will fret about more than any of your guests.

    Renting a private home is challenging. From the owner’s point of view, there are insurance and zoning issues that could cause them grief if they are not aware that a wedding is taking place. The insurance alone increases the rental rate they have to charge.

    Post # 6
    232 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Aug 30th, 2014

    I vote strongly against the rec center because you have to share it with strangers! I was at a wedding last year that had the cocktail hour in a public section of the venue, and the guests were definitely made uncomfortable by all the strangers passing through.

    Where you’re looking to have your accommodations, ceremony site, and reception at the same location, I personally think you can justify a higher cost. You save a lot on decor and travel, and you can presumably being your own alcohol without worrying about licensing, if that’s in the plan…

    Post # 7
    744 posts
    Busy bee

    chickspartan:  Do you even need to tell the venues that you’re having a wedding?  Other than the ceremony itself (which you could do separately in a park or something), sounds like this would look like a family reunion.

    Post # 8
    1981 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I would keep looking for vacation rentals. We have one for our family to stay during the wedding weekend (9 bedrooms!) in SoCal. We are having our (DIY) rehearsal dinner there. For reference, we had to pay $80 for event insurance (totally understand) and $10-15 per person depending on whether the caterer is licensed or not. AND that came with 60 inch rounds and white chairs fir everyone. Have you tried looking on aribnb and other similar websites? I honestly would avoid the rec center, but having a private ceremony was important to me. Also have you looked at community lodges for rent? I had a friend do that and it was inexpensive. GL!

    Post # 10
    2286 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    chickspartan:  I’d cut the rehearsal dinner (you don’t need a rehearsal for a casual wedding) and the bach parties if having a nicer venue or private one is important to you. Then you might be able to stay under budget. A definite no to going into debt!

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