(Closed) Which wedding would you go to as a guest?

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I do understand the loyalty you feel toward you cousin because she’s family.  How would your godmother and your mother feel if you didn’t attend?  Because that’s what is probably most important.  But, I’d probably go to the other wedding.  If you guys aren’t close, she shouldn’t feel too offended.  And considering your husband is in the other wedding, you can use that to your advantage.  It sounds better than just choosing the other wedding with no excuse. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Wedding B.  Whither thy husband goest…  I mean, he’s a groomsman.  I’m sure your relatives will understand that you needed to attend given that he’s IN the wedding.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i would go to the wedding where your husband is a groomsman.  i would write a personal note to the cousin bride explaining, wishing her a lovely wedding blah blah blah and maybe her mom as well, considering you are so close to her

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think you should go to the one your husband is the groomsman in. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Go to the fun wedding.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would pick B, UNLESS 1) it would mean a lot to your godmother for you to be there (her, not your cousin), or 2) you rarely see all of your family.

I see all of my family about once every 2 or 3 years, so that is a big deal to me, and I would choose A in your situation. BUT, that is the only reason.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

B!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I can understand the sense of obligation you may feel about your cousins wedding, but I would go to the second wedding considering your husband is in it. Not because you can’t go anywhere without your hubby, but because you honestly don’t seem to excited to go to your cousin’s wedding, you are not very close, you know it would be for a short period of time and everyone would leave anyway…and if most of your family leaves after dinner and dind’t even say goodbye to you at your wedding it doesn’t sound if they really regard weddings as a very big deal anyway… Go to the other wedding with your husband, where you will both likely have a great time.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

go to wedding B and just send a nice gift to wedding A.  Thats all she wants is the gift anyways 🙂

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If it were me, we’d probably split up with me going to Wedding A and FI going to Wedding B.  But I am really close to my godmother and she would be devastated if I didn’t go to her daughter’s wedding.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’d probably go to Wedding A, but I’m not so good at standing up for myself 🙁

So I guess that is to say… I think you should go to Wedding B! Just prepare for the fallout from your cousin (some of the above suggestions about a note, etc. are great ideas!!)

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

wedding b for lots of reasons! more fun and your hubby!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Yeah wedding B totally. And you have the excuse of being part of the wedding party…(sortof)

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I hate to be the devils advocate here but I would go to wedding A.  I hate conflict especially with family so I would hate the thought of my cousin being mad at me.  You will have other weddings with your husband to go to but your cousin will only get married once, ya know? good luck!!

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