Post # 1
We are still debating on the venue. Please vote on which option you’d most prefer if you were a guest!
Option 1: Regular Saturday night reception. Buffet dinner, DJ and dancing, bar. Most expensive per plate, then added costs of DJ and alcohol.
Option 2: Friday night cocktail reception. Heavy hors d’ouvres, DJ and dancing, bar. $10 cheaper per plate, still has a similar feel to the Saturday reception, still have to pay DJ and alcohol.
Option 3: Sunday brunch. Almost half the price of option 1 per plate. Probably just have ipod style background music and no dancing, limited alcohol like mimosas.
Really, I like the feel of all of them. I have a well documented fondness for brunch, but I could see Sunday morning making it difficult for us to find a pastor to officiate and not being the most convenient for guests. We do want the fun party feel, too, so Friday night might be a good compromise. But then, my FI has said that if we’re going to do it, we may as well go all out. So we’re kind of up in the air.
Post # 3
Do you have a lot of people who are traveling in? I think they would prefer the Saturday night, but could be fine with a Friday as well. If I was traveling in, I wouldn’t be able to do Sunday at all though.
Post # 4
Most guests are local; my side lives about an hour away. We have maybe 20 people who would really need to travel in, and even half of those are only maybe 2.5 hrs away. We drove to and from one of their weddings on a Saturday night and did not stay, so really, as far as OOT guests, there are not many.
Post # 5
I vote for #1. I second your FI’s sentiment of “may as well go all out”. You only get married once… why not throw a big fun party to celebrate? 🙂
Post # 6
As a guest I prefer option number one, but as a bride you have to do what is right for you and fits your budget.
A Sunday brunch will not give you the party feel and depending on how many guests you have will the $10 per person really add up? I know $10 is a lot but maybe you don’t have something like chair covers in order to make up the difference, just an idea.
Post # 7
I mean, ideally I would want the Saturday party. But I would totally be happy with a Friday, hor d’ourves party as well. I would prefer either of those over the Sunday brunch, but that’s just a personal preference. As a guest, I would make my best effort to be there no matter what. If most guests are local, then it seems like either a Friday or a Saturday wouldn’t be too difficult for them. So it depends on what sort of feel you want for your wedding and what you imagine it to be.
Post # 8
I think the Friday night option is a great compromise—has the same feel as a Saturday party for your guests, but at a lower cost to you. Make sure, though, that a Friday night will work for the majority of yours guests.
Post # 9
I also voted for #1. Have an all out bash Saturday night :]
Post # 10
I voted number 1, but I think it’s important to take your budget into consideration. #2 was a close second to me, and if that’s more affordable and won’t break the bank for you guys, then I’d be happy with that as well as a guest!
Post # 11
As a guest, I absolutely prefer the Saturday night dinner party because, well, they’re usually more fun. But as a bride, you need to do what’s right for you 🙂
Post # 12
I am torn between either Friday or Saturday. I choose to do Friday for my wedding but we are still having a full dinner! Doing it this way our venue’s income guarantee is 4 grand cheaper! Maybe consider asking this?!?
Post # 13
Oh and then Saturday we are having a huge family cookout at my parents house! Poolparty/cookout/bonfire and everyone is camping out. Its going to be more of a weekend event this helped sway my decison to a Friday night. My fiance was all for the Friday night recpetion I wanted to Saturday….but when I found it meant not missing out on anything and then actually allowing us to have a big family party(which is my favorite thing has been since I was little) I was all for it….the big savings helped too 😀
Which ever you pick…once you have nailed it down you will feel 100x better! There really is no wrong choice here as long as you and FI are truley happy! Good Luck
Post # 14
Kait — I wish we could do that, but the dinner is the same price regardless of what day it’s on.
I probably phrased that poorly. Friday night is $10 difference on the plate, but then that also saves on the tax and 20% service charge on top. It’s about $1600 difference between dinner and hors d’ouvres and about $2100 between dinner and brunch. I know for some people that’s not enough savings to make such a change, but that is actually a pretty significant percent of the budget for us.
Post # 15
I see nothing wrong with doing a friday night with heavy hour deurves! The last 3 weddings I have been too have done this (they did specify in the invite that there would be no dinner0 So we ate before we left and I was STUFFED when I left and had equally as much fun as I have had at other weddings! It worked out well for them b/c they ended up being more partying time this way! I personally would not love to get up and go to a sunday brunch…I am not a morning person….but this would not prevent me from attending! But I think that having a Sunday brunch not only will people not be so quick to get up and dance but think of all the things you have to do to get ready! Its always a mad dash to get ready for a wedding that starts in the evening I would be a stressball in the am trying to get ready! Just something else to consider
Post # 16
im going agaist the grain here. I like the Sunday thing. I travel out of town for every wedding since I moved away from “home.” and the Friday and Saturday ones kill me becaue I do not even see the bride and groom except for the wedding. I think if it is on Sunday, you might beable to see them more over the other two days.