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I think the earrings are beautiful but if I had to pick one I would prefer the compact because it is something I would keep in my purse & use all the time. I don't have one at the moment & I keep saying I need to get one, I love having one to check/re-apply lipstick etc & also after eating to make sure nothing got stuck in my teeth :)

It's tough, even though we're paying for the hair and make-up, I feel like I need something to gift them with that they can open. This has been the hardest wedding-planning decision to make ever! I have no idea what to get my 3 girls. I thought about jewelry, but I'm worried that I'm just picking something I would like, not what they would like. It's so hard!

I think that if the jewelry is something kind of wedding specific that the girls might not wear again and you aren't set on them all wearing the same thing, you could perhaps go another route with the gifts. I know that I'd appreciate being able to pick my own jewelry within guidelines so that I could get something I'd be more likely to wear again.

The compact is nice (I'm very much a compact girl!), so if your girls are into that sort of thing, they might appreciate that, as they could use it every day, more than jewelry that they might only wear once. 

Personally, I'd appreciate a gift card toward my dress, having my hair/makeup paid for (if you're asking that they get it done professionally), or something else to cut the cost of being in the wedding (perhaps a night at the hotel you'll be staying at with you?). I say that simply because in this economy, I (and everyone I know) am trying to spend as little as possible in every possible arena. 

Good luck choosing! I hope that helps!

I'm struggling with this as well.  I would certainly vote for earrings over a compact because I would never use a compact.  I understand the draw to cutting your BMs costs, but I am a sentimental sap.  I want things that I will associate with my friends and their wedding.  I'm getting my girls pearl earrings (which I found for $22 a pair on www.pearlparadise.com), and I'm struggling to decide what else--maybe a book for each of them?

I can't entirely explain why, but I'm really not a fan of BM gifts being day-of jewelry (I've received this as a BM gift before).  Partially I think it's b/c I feel that jewelry is a personal thing.  If the bride wants me to wear something specific I'd like to be told that ahead of time...and in that case I would certainly appreciate the bride buying it, but not wrapping it up as a gift (which is a minor distinction, I know).  I think it's very thoughtful to offset costs in lieu of some other gift item.  In that case I think a personal card is still a thoughtful thing to do.  But I guess b/c I feel that if you're going to wrap something up and give it to someone it should be something you think *they* specifically would like, not something that goes with the dress you've chosen.  Something more universal like pearls, though, might be a different story. 

I actually voted for the compact b/c they are really cute.  I don't currently carry one, but I actually think it can be useful.  And in either case it's a nice little keepsake.

But for the record, I think the earrings you've picked out are super cute.  I also love purple (it's my wedding color too), and I would totally wear them again and be very happy if my BM's wore soemthing similar.  I also know that all of my BM's have really different taste and it'd be really hard to find matching jewelry that they all would like.