Post # 1
If you were a bridesmaid, would you rather receive day-of jewelry (earrings and/or necklace) from the bride as your BM gift, OR a monogrammed compact mirror as seen below?
My BM’s are paying for their dress, shoes, and hair…so I’m looking to give them something really useful on the day of that they’ll really appreciate!
*Note* If I did the jewelry, let’s say earrings, I wouldn’t do the same exact pair for each girl…but same metal type (silver) and stone color (purple), different styles!
Post # 3
If I was spending all the money on hair/make-up (which I would actually prefer as my gift, rather than an item) I think I would prefer the jewelry. But I’ve never had a compact mirror, so maybe I’d like it more than I realize? Those earrings are so pretty, I’d love to get them!
Post # 4
Yeahhh, I thought about doing the hair as their gift…but I just always ‘envisioned’ giving them something special that they would have after that day
Post # 5
I think the earrings are beautiful but if I had to pick one I would prefer the compact because it is something I would keep in my purse & use all the time. I don’t have one at the moment & I keep saying I need to get one, I love having one to check/re-apply lipstick etc & also after eating to make sure nothing got stuck in my teeth 🙂
Post # 6
Personally I think those earring are AMAZING! Where are they from? I want them!
Post # 7
I chose "Other". Since your bridesmaids are paying for hair, dress, and shoes, I would pay for one of those. I bought my bridemaids hair, make-up and day-of jewelry (there was only two of them). They were so appreciative that I was trying to offset the cost of being in my wedding. Especially with this economy, every penny counts. If they want something to remember my wedding by, I would be more than happy to send them any picture they wanted. 😉
But, saying that, I love the earrings, care to tell us where those are from, because I would love a pair?
Post # 8
Yeah if I only had 2 or even 3 bm’s I’d try to do a bit more money wise but…I have 5 lol…still considering paying for their hair…but don’t think I can afford to pay for their hair as well as a gift.
And they’re from etsy, lemme find the link!
Post # 9
We are giving our wedding party a room at the hotel for the night of the wedding. I am also going to be getting my girls a bracelet. But, if it were me I would want a room or spa not something I would never use again.
Post # 10
It’s tough, even though we’re paying for the hair and make-up, I feel like I need something to gift them with that they can open. This has been the hardest wedding-planning decision to make ever! I have no idea what to get my 3 girls. I thought about jewelry, but I’m worried that I’m just picking something I would like, not what they would like. It’s so hard!
Post # 11
I’m not a fan of "things" as well. I always get gifts that are well thought out but would prefer a spa gift card or having my hair and make up paid for 🙂
Post # 12
I think that if the jewelry is something kind of wedding specific that the girls might not wear again and you aren’t set on them all wearing the same thing, you could perhaps go another route with the gifts. I know that I’d appreciate being able to pick my own jewelry within guidelines so that I could get something I’d be more likely to wear again.
The compact is nice (I’m very much a compact girl!), so if your girls are into that sort of thing, they might appreciate that, as they could use it every day, more than jewelry that they might only wear once.
Personally, I’d appreciate a gift card toward my dress, having my hair/makeup paid for (if you’re asking that they get it done professionally), or something else to cut the cost of being in the wedding (perhaps a night at the hotel you’ll be staying at with you?). I say that simply because in this economy, I (and everyone I know) am trying to spend as little as possible in every possible arena.
Good luck choosing! I hope that helps!
Post # 13
Of those two options I think jewelry would probably be well received. I think it depends on your ladies and what they would like. For me and my group of friends we appreciate more sentimental gifts. So I chose other in your poll because for my group my thank you gift would be something for their specific personality and likes, as opposed to being something they wear to the wedding. But my ladies are kinda unique and not very much into jewelry or makeup. So I think it really depends on your ladies.
Post # 14
I’m struggling with this as well. I would certainly vote for earrings over a compact because I would never use a compact. I understand the draw to cutting your BMs costs, but I am a sentimental sap. I want things that I will associate with my friends and their wedding. I’m getting my girls pearl earrings (which I found for $22 a pair on http://www.pearlparadise.com), and I’m struggling to decide what else–maybe a book for each of them?
Post # 15
I was thinking of buying a pretty empty picture frame and then having the photographer take a portrait of them with their boyfriends/husbands, with me, or by themselves (how ever they wish–they just need to let the photographer know).
Post # 16
I can’t entirely explain why, but I’m really not a fan of BM gifts being day-of jewelry (I’ve received this as a BM gift before). Partially I think it’s b/c I feel that jewelry is a personal thing. If the bride wants me to wear something specific I’d like to be told that ahead of time…and in that case I would certainly appreciate the bride buying it, but not wrapping it up as a gift (which is a minor distinction, I know). I think it’s very thoughtful to offset costs in lieu of some other gift item. In that case I think a personal card is still a thoughtful thing to do. But I guess b/c I feel that if you’re going to wrap something up and give it to someone it should be something you think *they* specifically would like, not something that goes with the dress you’ve chosen. Something more universal like pearls, though, might be a different story.
I actually voted for the compact b/c they are really cute. I don’t currently carry one, but I actually think it can be useful. And in either case it’s a nice little keepsake.
But for the record, I think the earrings you’ve picked out are super cute. I also love purple (it’s my wedding color too), and I would totally wear them again and be very happy if my BM’s wore soemthing similar. I also know that all of my BM’s have really different taste and it’d be really hard to find matching jewelry that they all would like.