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<span style="font-size: 6.5pt; font-family: Verdana">Back to the age question of guests wearing white to a wedding. Is it appropriate to wear a crème dress that has a black flower, and all black accessories. I feel like emphasizing the black in accessories makes the crème less of a focus?

I probably wouldn't suggest doing it. Just incase the bride is one who would care. Save the cream coloured dress for a cocktail party instead :)

Unless you are sure the bride is NOT wearing a white/ivory dress (as in the case of many Hindu weddings, or you have other means of knowing the bride isn't wearing white/ivory), don't do it. 

If it's okay with the bride, then you shouldn't have a problem with it. A lot of people arent so traditional, and don't care or don't even know the "no white" rule. Ask the bride. Nowadays, a lot of people wear whites and creams to weddings. I don't think it's a big deal as long as you don't show up in a glaring white dress.

I always say no to wearing white to someone else's wedding, but I do give you kudos for asking the question ! I've been to SO many weddings where clueless guest have worn white and EVERYONE was talking about, "can you believe so-and-so wore WHITE!"
Be on the safe side and save it for another occasion.

To me it doens't sound like it would be a problem. I know that at least for me, I woulnd't be upset if someone wore that to my wedding. It's not like its plain white, or white with tiny, barely visable decorations on it....

I'm on the opposit side of the majority of the others on this - mostly because I wouldn't care if someone showed up in this dress to my wedding. 

Personally I don't care what anyone wears to my wedding but I think I'm the minority.  Many many people do care a lot so I'll play devil's advocate a bit here

1) the bride will probably not be honest if you ask her if it's ok to wear your dress cause she doesn't want to appear to be a bridezilla. But even if it doesn't annoy her it could annoy her mother, grandmother, aunt, or someone else

2) If you dress is cream and covered in a black floral print that's one thing but if it's all cream with just one black flower accent then you're on dangerous ground...what if the bride wears a cream dress with a black ribbon? Someone might think you're part of the wedding party

3) Out of all the dresses in the world in so many different colors, why wear this one to a wedding? Save it for another special occasion so you don't accidently offend someone

4) Finally, if you don't believe me about how nazi some girls are on this issue read one of the very first posts the editor of Martha Stewart Weddings wrote on her blog about wearing white to a wedding.

http://blogs1.marthastewart.com/weddings/2007/08/tough-question.html#comments

Make sure to read all 77 of the mean and scathing comments.  I mean she edits the Bible of Weddings and she wore white and she was literally trashed by the majority of readers...some people were so cruel.  If she can't get away with it then probably no one else can either. Maybe people won't be cruel to your face but there will be at least a handful of people who will more then likely be talking about you. This might not bother you but I'd be safe and wear something else.

i'm in the minority here - but i guess since i dont really care what people wear to mine, i think a creme/ivory/eggshell/ecru dress with black floral print is cool... but that's just me (shrugging)

i dont think there will ever be any consensus on this issue - but in my specific case, i'm going to be having too much fun and going to be so stinkin happy that i'm not going to care who wears what to my wedding --- well minus maybe sparkly tube tops or a puma tracksuit...

It's okay for a man to show up in a white linen suit if you are getting married in the summer, in the morning, and in the Mediterranean or South America.

I'm with the readers who actually couldn't believe the thing that Darcy Miller was wearing was a dress. 

My FSIL will actually probably wear either black or white to my late afternoon summer wedding.  She is loud, large, and dresses like Stevie Nicks.  She doesn't have to dress inappropriately to get noticed, but apparently the more attention, the better.  If you wore white to my wedding, I would sit you next to her.  And then I would forgive you, because that would be punishment enough.

I always find it interesting that those who've made up their minds to wear a white or off-white outfit to a wedding are never satisfied when told "Umm..probably not a good idea". They'll poll everyone...everywhere until someone gives them the answer they want to hear! It's ludicrous! I agree with the above posters who've said "out of all the wonderful colours available out there...why do you particularly feel the need to wear such a controversial colour on that day?" I chalk it up to the fact that people in general will do whatever they want to do, regardless of general consensus. Asking the bride if she cares always puts her in an awkward position...she doesn't want to seem bridezilla and dictate to her guests what they should wear, but at the same time she may find it ridiculous that someone would even ask her the question.