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My FI's daughter is wearing a lovely white dress with a silver and black pattern for our wedding. I'm the bride, and I think her dress is fine. If it was all white, or all cream, or all black, I would think it was inappropriate, regardless of the accessories. When you say "a black flower" do you mean a black floral pattern, or just a single black flower (as, on the belt or sash?)
I probably wouldn't suggest doing it. Just incase the bride is one who would care. Save the cream coloured dress for a cocktail party instead :)
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If you are close to the bride, ask her. If there is a floral pattern and not just a single flower, you'll probably be ok. But I would also suggest not doing it if you can't confirm with the bride! Better safe than sorry!
Unless you are sure the bride is NOT wearing a white/ivory dress (as in the case of many Hindu weddings, or you have other means of knowing the bride isn't wearing white/ivory), don't do it.
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i would say dont do it. i went to a wedding last year and a gal showed up in white with a little bit of blue flowers on the bottom and she just looked riciculous. 
If it's okay with the bride, then you shouldn't have a problem with it. A lot of people arent so traditional, and don't care or don't even know the "no white" rule. Ask the bride. Nowadays, a lot of people wear whites and creams to weddings. I don't think it's a big deal as long as you don't show up in a glaring white dress.
I would avoid it if you can. It will make someone unhappy whether it is the bride or someone else. There are so many other colors to wear..Save thisi one for another ocassion.
I always say no to wearing white to someone else's wedding, but I do give you kudos for asking the question 
! I've been to SO many weddings where clueless guest have worn white and EVERYONE was talking about, "can you believe so-and-so wore WHITE!"
Be on the safe side and save it for another occasion.
even with the bride's okay with it, i agree with AliCherry -- someone will always be talking! i'd save this one for another event.
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To me it doens't sound like it would be a problem. I know that at least for me, I woulnd't be upset if someone wore that to my wedding. It's not like its plain white, or white with tiny, barely visable decorations on it....
I'm on the opposit side of the majority of the others on this - mostly because I wouldn't care if someone showed up in this dress to my wedding.
Hmm, I don't think it would mind. No way anyone can outshine the beautiful bride of the day! I actually asked my whole family to wear their Filipino clothes to the wedding, and they will all be in a creamish-white color.
Personally I don't care what anyone wears to my wedding but I think I'm the minority. Many many people do care a lot so I'll play devil's advocate a bit here
1) the bride will probably not be honest if you ask her if it's ok to wear your dress cause she doesn't want to appear to be a bridezilla. But even if it doesn't annoy her it could annoy her mother, grandmother, aunt, or someone else
2) If you dress is cream and covered in a black floral print that's one thing but if it's all cream with just one black flower accent then you're on dangerous ground...what if the bride wears a cream dress with a black ribbon? Someone might think you're part of the wedding party
3) Out of all the dresses in the world in so many different colors, why wear this one to a wedding? Save it for another special occasion so you don't accidently offend someone
4) Finally, if you don't believe me about how nazi some girls are on this issue read one of the very first posts the editor of Martha Stewart Weddings wrote on her blog about wearing white to a wedding.
http://blogs1.marthastewart.com/weddings/2007/08/tough-question.html#comments
Make sure to read all 77 of the mean and scathing comments. I mean she edits the Bible of Weddings and she wore white and she was literally trashed by the majority of readers...some people were so cruel. If she can't get away with it then probably no one else can either. Maybe people won't be cruel to your face but there will be at least a handful of people who will more then likely be talking about you. This might not bother you but I'd be safe and wear something else.
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i'm in the minority here - but i guess since i dont really care what people wear to mine, i think a creme/ivory/eggshell/ecru dress with black floral print is cool... but that's just me (shrugging)
i dont think there will ever be any consensus on this issue - but in my specific case, i'm going to be having too much fun and going to be so stinkin happy that i'm not going to care who wears what to my wedding --- well minus maybe sparkly tube tops or a puma tracksuit...
sorry but if you have to ask, then you shouldn't wear it.
yes some brides may have an "i dont care" attitude (like the above poster) but it's not worth the risk. there are a gazillion dresses out there that are non white/cream/ivory!
It's okay for a man to show up in a white linen suit if you are getting married in the summer, in the morning, and in the Mediterranean or South America.
I'm with the readers who actually couldn't believe the thing that Darcy Miller was wearing was a dress.
My FSIL will actually probably wear either black or white to my late afternoon summer wedding. She is loud, large, and dresses like Stevie Nicks. She doesn't have to dress inappropriately to get noticed, but apparently the more attention, the better. If you wore white to my wedding, I would sit you next to her. And then I would forgive you, because that would be punishment enough.
"...dresses like stevie nicks" omg - i think i saw her on my train to work yesterday!!!
suzanno - you never cease to put a smile on my face while giving great advice!!!
I always find it interesting that those who've made up their minds to wear a white or off-white outfit to a wedding are never satisfied when told "Umm..probably not a good idea". They'll poll everyone...everywhere until someone gives them the answer they want to hear! It's ludicrous! I agree with the above posters who've said "out of all the wonderful colours available out there...why do you particularly feel the need to wear such a controversial colour on that day?" I chalk it up to the fact that people in general will do whatever they want to do, regardless of general consensus. Asking the bride if she cares always puts her in an awkward position...she doesn't want to seem bridezilla and dictate to her guests what they should wear, but at the same time she may find it ridiculous that someone would even ask her the question.
I don't think it's a big deal to wear white or cream, it's impossible to outshine the bride, and I can't imagine any of my friends caring at all. But I have pretty chill friends. I told my mom she can wear magenta, yellow, white, cream, whatever the heck she wants.
That is the funniest part of the whole Darcy Miller post - not that she does wedding stuff for a living and still had no clue, or that she actually bought and wore that crazy flour sack of a dress, but that she asked everyone in her office what they thought, they all told her it was a bad idea, and she completely ignored them and wore it anyway. Why bother to ask?
as a bride i don't care if someone wears white/cream/ivory to my wedding. but to be honest, i'm one of the guests that points out those who actually wear whites to weddings and talks about how inappropriate it is =P
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I completely agree with Suzanno regarding the Darcy post. If you are already doubting and have to ask others their opinion, you probably shouldn't wear the dress then. You could ask the bride, but like me, some just might be uncomfortable when put on the spot and not know how to respond aside from saying that it's alright with them when in fact it's not.
I completely agree with Suzanno regarding the Darcy post. If you are already doubting and have to ask others their opinion, you probably shouldn't wear the dress then. You could ask the bride, but like me, some just might be uncomfortable when put on the spot and not know how to respond aside from saying that it's alright with them when in fact it's not.
I agree, often if you have to ask it's because you know it's not quite right and you want someone to justify your decision for you.
I'm probably guilty of doing the same thing about another subject :)
I'm pretty sure I won't care what anyone else wears unless it's literally a white wedding dress. All white and all black are a little off-putting but if it's just a white or black backrgound with some other color, then I think it's completely ok. I've said in a previous post, I actually think wearing all black to a wedding is much worse than wearing white. The dress the original poster described sounds fine to me.
The irony of those comments on Darcy's post I think is that all those hateful women are condeming her on the grounds of ettiquete, courtesy and respect, when they are not using any of those things. They are rude and tactless.
My guests can wear whatever they want! White is just a color - and my dress isn't even white, so it really doesn't matter. Everyone that is coming are my family and friends, they'll know who the bride is.
I think it would be ridiculous for a bride to get upset about a guest wearing white or cream or ivory or eggshell or mother of pear or whatever! It is not 1952 anymore - a lot of the "etiquette" of wedding/wedding planning is outdated. I know that on my wedding day I won't even remember what anyone was wearing or what color their clothes were. I'll have more important things to deal with during the day! :)
I was one of the pre-planning chill brides who swore they wouldn't either care or notice - but I ended up noticing ALOT because I had to deal with comments from older ladies at the wedding. How do you handle a comment like that? I stuck with "I think she looks lovely" - but it didn't stop them from talking about her - which made me feel bad (for her).
Even if the bride couldn't care less - it is a controversial color to many people and the bride may very well have to deal with it one way or another.
I've been to weddings where guests have worn white/cream/ivory, etc. and you don't really notice it. . . until the pictures, and they stand out. I had one friend who told people she didn't care. . . but she definitely did when she saw the pictures. So, unless you have nothing else to wear, I wouldn't do it.
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<span style="font-size: 6.5pt; font-family: Verdana">Back to the age question of guests wearing white to a wedding. Is it appropriate to wear a crème dress that has a black flower, and all black accessories. I feel like emphasizing the black in accessories makes the crème less of a focus?