Post # 1
I’m a very white gal marrying a Chinese-American man in February 2015! He was born here and very Americanized, but his parents are pretty traditional Chinese even though they moved here in the 1970s. They are wonderful, sweet, and very accepting of me into their family. Would it be weird/offensive if I changed into a qipao for part of our very formal reception? We’re having a lot of his relatives coming in from Shanghai/Taipei and I certainly don’t want to offend anyone since I’m not Chinese.
Post # 2
i’m taiwanese. i think since you’re marrying into a chinese family, it would be more than appropriate and i don’t find it offensive at all. 🙂
you’re not culturally appropriating by any means. also, congrats! what does your fiance think?
Post # 3
You’re participating in a culture with people of that culture. There’s nothing offensive about that. If you were marrying a white guy and wore a qipao because you thought it was cool and ~exotic~, that would be a different story.
Post # 4
I think that’s nice, and his family will appreciate it. I’ve seen lots of multicultural weddings where one party wears the traditional clothing of the other party’s culture. Plus, the qipao is very pretty too!
Post # 5
catpeaches: Thanks for your perspective!! He thinks it’s a great idea. I was really more concerned about all of his relatives coming from Taiwan and China, who may not be so used to the idea of intercultural marriage, etc. BUT his parents are super cool and I think they would like it if I wore one for a bit during the reception as a nod to their heritage. My Chinese girlfriends tell me I need to go to LA to have one made (I live in Austin), but I might also check out efushop.com!
Post # 6
NurseKaoru: If he and his parents are for it then thats all that matters! I say do it. I don’t think you would offend. Do it 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: December 2014 - Maui
I think it’s fine. I’m white and marrying a Japanese man, and we have already taken our formal wedding portraits in traditional kimono.
Post # 8
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
NurseKaoru: I think that’s awesome! I went to a wedding about two years back where the bride’s family was very Indian, and he wore the traditional outfit for their very traditional ceremony and changed into a suit for the reception.
Also, month twins! What’s your date? I’m on the 22nd.
Post # 9
I think it’s fine. I’m speaking as a white woman marrying a Chinese man. I spoke with him mom about it to make sure that it would be alright and she was very supportive.
I would hope that his relatives who are travelling in would understand that you are wanting to honour their culture.
ETA: I’m also changing into a Qipao mid-way through the reception.