(Closed) White Gourds as Aisle Decor? JOP says no :(

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Do what you want! Is your JOP a close friend, is that why she’s giving you advice? But…she has been to many weddings, she may have a point…Maybe set up a few just to see what it would look like? Honestly, I don’t feel like white gourds on the ground will take away from a beautiful bride walking down the isle, but tha’ts just me!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I’m not sure why a JOP feels she needs togive you decor advice.  Unless having gourds in Ct during a wedding ceremony is a misdemeanor….

But littlebug has a point.  Perhaps she’s seen it before and is sharing her thoughts.  Yeah, try a mock up or something ans see how you like it./  And really if you don’t care if other things have white, (or if that is purposely the look you’re going for)  then she shouldn’t be that concerned.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I like Tanya123’s suggestion of trying a mock-up to see what you think.  I know some people are concerned with having no other white (other than the bride’s dress), but I think it can make the decor really neat and clean.  We used a lot of ivory in our decor and I loved the look.  Also, ultimately, this is just your JOP so if she doesn’t like it, you don’t have to listen to her.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

pinwheelspoprocks, do you have a contract with your JP?  She should have known what she was getting into, and shouldn’t be trying to nickel and dime you now because it’s not what she expected.  I’ve done weddings where it was a lot more work than I thought it was going to be… like having a rehearsal two hours away from me when I had already agreed to attend… but I would never ask to charge extra money for something like.. extra work, especially if you were up front with what you wanted in the first place.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

Totally not what you asked, but 3 years old is pushing it to walk the aisle by himself. Unless he is VERY outgoing.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

pinwheelspoprocks, I think you answered your own question.  It’s not too soon on the JP or officiant’s end, it’s just an availability issue (I do completely custom wedding ceremonies, which take quite a bit more work than just reading from a book, as most JPs do, and I just booked an awesome ceremony for the weekend of your wedding a few days ago).

If you don’t have a contract, why not give some people a call, and see if there is somewhere out there?  I also think it’s weird how negative she is being about your wedding.. for example, if a bride told me they want their three year old ring bearer to walk down the aisle alone – I would offer some suggestions (be open to having mom walk him down if he gets nervous, probably suggest the flower girl walking with him), but I’m not going to tell you how your wedding is going to be. 

I know it’s not something you can change now, but you shoudl sign contracts with anyone involved with anything in your ceremony.  You want to have some form of a legal foot to stand on if, God forbid, they decided not to show up.

Good luck!!!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

yikes, changing prices and dictating how the ceremony will go? That would completely make me nervous too. I hope it all works out for you but as for the gourds – I saw go for it!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

i guess she’s upping her price because she’s coordinating the decor too, haha! 

i would really look for someone else.  i was at a wedding one time that the jop didnt show up, and we found another one in about 20 mins who came and did a fabulous job.  you have time!

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