Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I work at a hotel that is hosting the guests of a wedding, and I’ve seen 4 women walking by with dresses that are at least 85% white. One was a white dress with a pink collar thing, one was a white dress with black lace sleeves….
Would you be okay if a guest wore a dress with the majority of it being white?
I personally wouldn’t care if there was SOME white, but it was a white dress with a little bit of color (like these) I’d be a little upset.
Also, want to add that I probably wouldn’t care in the moment, but looking back on my pictures I’d be a little miffed. Hah.
Post # 3
I would be so mad if that happened at my wedding.
Post # 4
I would not be a happy camper if someone wore white to my wedding. I’ve seen women wear sundresses that have a white background with a colored pattern and that’s fine… but if it’s more than 75% white, that’s a no-go.
Post # 5
I know that no one is going to mistake anyone else for the bride, but it’s incredibly rude/disrespectful to wear white/ivory to a wedding. FMIL wants to wear the ivory dress that she wore to her older son’s wedding (10 years ago!!!), and I was floored that a) she wore it before, and b) she wanted to wear it again. FI doesn’t get why I don’t want her to wear it.
Post # 6
How on earth will they be able to tell who the bride is??? OMG
Post # 7
Someone wore white to my friends wedding last december. Everyone still knows who the Bride is.. so it doesn’t matter. I think the guest who wore white just looked silly and maybe even had no idea she was committing a faux-pas.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t mind at all. I’d only worry about how others would view the guests. I actually would love for my mother to wear a white lace shrug to my wedding, but I’m worried others might look at her like what was she thinking. I’d only mind if someone wore a wedding dress to my wedding.
Post # 9
As long as they’re not wearing wedding gowns, who cares?
Post # 11
When I was a MOH, the grooms sister wore white. I didnt notice it until the photos after becasue we were all so caught up in the day. I never mentioned it to my friend (the bride) even as we went through the photos so idk if she was upset (or even noticed.)
Post # 12
I think my guests are mostly adults. They know how to dress themselves and they are more than allowed to wear whatever color they want.
Brides do not have the monopoly on any color.
I wouldn’t even notice if someone wore all white.
Post # 13
it wouldnt have bothered me at my wedding. i barely remember my wedding (last week!!) as the nerves paralysed me hahaha
as a guest though, if i saw someone with a white dress i’d wonder ‘why did she pick that? trying to make a point or just liked it??’
i know that you dont mix up white dresses with the wedding dress…but still, all all the colours in the world, why pick white? makes you seem a bit odd in my opinion
edit – i did see a picture of a guest at a friends wedding, not in a wedding dress per se, but in a strapless floor length white maxi dress (no pattern). i found it a bit odd!!
Post # 14
I think I’d be annoyed. Not so much because I feel I own the colour, but at the disrespect it implies. Everyone knows who wears the white dress at a wedding (and that it’s bad taste to wear it as a guest) and by wearing white they’re basically giving the bride the middle finger.
Post # 15
Would I be okay? Yes. Would I be happy about it? NO! But I would do my best to let it go, because at that point there’s nothing you can do about it. I do think it’s poor etiquette to wear a white dress to a wedding unless you’re the bride (or unless the bride specifically requests guests to wear white and/or lets everyone know she is wearing red or blue or whatever.)