(Closed) white/ivory worn to my wedding?!?!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you think it was wrong of her to where ivory?
    Yes, extremely wrong : (72 votes)
    72 %
    No, not a big deal : (28 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3454 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Maybe she did it to be a bitch, but I’d just let it go.  Not worth the fight.

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    7908 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Did it look like a wedding dress? Did a single guest think she was the bride and not you?

    I’m guessing no.

    So don’t worry about it. Not worth it.

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    2557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m usually in the “if it doesn’t look bridal and no one confused her with the bride, who cares?” camp, but from your take on the situation, it sounds intentional.  In which case, it was a very move made by her in poor taste.  I would still try as hard as I could to let it go though.

    Post # 7
    Member
    11760 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    i understand why you’re upset but at this point what’s done is done. It’s not worth being upset still and overshadowing the wonderful memories of your wedding.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Sounds like she made an ass of herself. You can’t change it now, and if it was intentional – she wins if you stew. If it wasn’t – it only hurts you to stew. 

     

    Totally annoying but you gotta let it go.

    Post # 9
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted “no”. It’s just a color and I’m sure everyone knew who the bride was.

    Post # 10
    Member
    3093 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Agree with pp that this was in poor taste but definitely not worth you losing any of your well deserved sleep over.

    I was watching some videos from a videographer we might use and I was surprised at how many women guests wear white/ivory to weddings. 

    I think as brides we are hypervigilant about these things.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    Wow!  It’s extremely wrong if she is also a wedding planner.  And not that you’re asking, but I wouldn’t make a big deal of it; complaining to friends/family won’t get you anywhere.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1082 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I voted no.

    In the grand scheme of things, it really isn’t a big deal.

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    220 posts
    Helper bee

    You’re going to have a relationship with your SIL for a long time, so I think the best path here is to assume the best about her intentions and move on.

    Post # 15
    Member
    814 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    It probably was, but what’s done is done. Nothing you can change about it now. Let it go.

    Post # 16
    Member
    368 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I agree with others that it depends if it looks ‘bridal’ or not really depends on whether it’s a bad move. Like my Gran showed me what she is wearing for our wedding the other day. White skirt and top combo with a pink and green jacket. Does it look bridal? Nope. And if anyone got confused between me and my 84 year old Grandma I’d be pretty upset, even though she looks great for her age. Either that or would find it hilarious my FI marrying my Grandma.

    Although this sounds pretty nasty. Especially if she’s a wedding planner. You would think she’d know it’s a fairly common taboo. If she is frolicing about on your wedding day trying to upstage the bride I would think she’s an idiot more than anything so hopefully if she does wear that people will look at her disapprovingly rather than think she’s pretty.

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