Post # 1
We have 8 in our bridal party and a flower girl. So 4 on each side. I know they come. And I don’t think it is that many people (I’ve seen bridal parties with 9 girls and 9 guys).
But my uncle is officiating, and he has a wife and two kids. Plus 4 sets of parents (both of our parents are divorced). If you add in both our siblings and their kids from both sides and the significant others of the bridal party, I end up with a head count of almost 40.
It’s out of town for everyone. I wouldn’t call it a destination wedding, but we are meeting in the middle for our two families so no one has to drive 5 hours, but instead everyone has to drive 2 or 3 hours.
I don’t want to offend anyone, but I also don’t want to have to feed 40 people the night before my weding for 120 people. What did you guys do?
Post # 3
We aren’t having a rehearsal dinner, we are instead having a “welcome party”, everyone invited to the wedding is invited to the party. It’s just going to be very low-key pizza & drinks.
Post # 4
Ours was a lot. Like 50. Our bridal party and their spouses were 20 of them. Both our immediate families. Our pastor and her husband. And 2 sets of out of town relatives who were staying w family invited to the dinner so we felt it would have been unfair not to include them. We had a buffet style dinner at Macayos. I think it was around $20 a person so just over $1k. Im grateful my in-laws paid for that part:)
Post # 5
The basic is that anyone that is at the rehersal goes to the rehersal dinner. That should include SOs of bridal party, as likley they will be hanging in the back at your rehersal. Likely, your parents and officent will be there as well, so they should be invited.
Your sibblings, unless they are a part of your wedding are optional. And the whole thing about OOT guests needed to be invited to the rehersal was made up by a wedding industry that wants to suck every cent out of you possible.
This all said, you don’t have to do anything fancy. Pizza party, Subway party plater, or something equaly as inexpensive are all okay options. You just need to feed them.
Post # 6
We both have large families, and a large bridal party, so we are estimating about 60 will be attending.
Post # 7
@MechEBee: We started out planning a rehearsal lunch, for the bridal party, officiant – whoever was at the rehearsal and their partner. Somehow that turned into including everyone who was in town at that time and now we’re close to 40 instead of about 12. I was hoping to keep it small and short, and come home to rest afterwards. Ah, well. 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
We’re thinking between 30-40…this is a rough estimate at this point but pretty close to who we will have attending I think..
- Bride & Groom (2)
- Parents/Step Parents (5)
- Grandparents (3)
- Bridal Party and Plus Ones (15)
- Silblings/their spouses/kids (6)
- International Guests (5)
Post # 9
We are having our wedding party (4 on each side) plus their significant others, parents, grandparents, and everyone else directly involved in the wedding (readers, our priest, etc.) It will be around 30 or so people when all is said and done. We are renting our condo’s club house and making FI’s family recipe pasta sauce instead of catering or going out. It is way better anyway 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
We also had a welcome BBQ for the whole guest list (165) – about 120 were there. It was DIY so pretty affordable, and it was great to see most people for 2 days!
Eta: I don’t think it’d be very polite to exclude your officiant, siblings, or wedding party SOs. I’d have a smaller wedding party if I couldn’t afford to feed them…
Post # 11
Forty sounds about right to me…My sister had quite a few people. She had:
Bridal Party and their +1s
A set of aunts and uncles we are especially close to
I want to say it was somewhere between 35-50 people that night. I will excho a PP, whoever comes to the rehersal, comes to the dinner for sure.
Post # 12
@MechEBee: Ugh – FILs have decided to make it a welcome dinner since their entire side is from out of state. We have 40 minimum. Most likely more when aunts and uncles starting joining in. As long as they make it clear those 40+ people can’t attend the rehearsal itself, I’ll be okay. At least it’s one giant meal that my family isn’t paying for!
Post # 13
I think we have settled on:
Us (2), Parents (4), Bridal party and significant others (14), and several other very close family members (2-3). I’m sure we will invite our officiant and our wedding coordinator but I don’t anticipate either of them coming.
Post # 14
We’re just doing wedding party, RB & FG w/ families, parents and grandparents which is about 45-50 people. The rehearsal dinners I’ve been to are usually 40-50 people but the weddings are usually 300+, but I think the people you’re inviting are the typical people you’d invite.
Post # 15
We only had our siblings stand up with us, so it was just the two sets of parents, us, my brother and his sister. We opted to keep it immediately family only. My brother does have a girlfriend but she was seriously insufferable during our planning process, so she was not invited. Not nice I know, but I was so sick of her crap at that point I didn’t care, lol.
Post # 16
@MechEBee: My in laws hosted at their house. Becuase of the amount of family/overnight guests staying with them, they opened it up to everyone that wanted to come, so we slipped rehearsal dinner invites inside the regular invitation for close family and friends. I’d say we had around 50 people there.