Post # 1
I’m a little confused on who all gets an invite and was hoping you guys could help me out. I’m wanting to invite one of my bridesmaids parents. They were also friends with my FI’s family in earlier years. My bridesmaid has two sisters, do I invite them, invite as a family or invite them and give a +1? I don’t know her sisters too well but talk to her older sister sometimes on fb. Ages are 18 and 23.
Another example would be one of my moms friends. This couple has two children 22 and 20. I haven’t seen their daughters for years. Who all gets invited?
Post # 3
@patches: The cool thing about weddings is you get to decide for yourself. If you can spare the extra invites, the more the merrier! But if you’re on a budget, it’s not a big deal to leave out adult children of the families you want to come.
Post # 4
@StuporDuck: Thank you for your input! Makes me much less confused. 🙂
Post # 5
This is how we handled it. We made a “dream” list off all the people we’d invite if money/space was no object. Then started slashing due to real life constraints and the fact that I didn’t want to spend 200 bucks to invite my mom’s friends kids that I haven’t seen in ten years and their husbands to my wedding.
Post # 6
@SapphireSun: That’s a great idea! Thank you!
Post # 7
Well for me personally, due to budget and space constraints, we are only extending invites to our nearest and dearest, and only giving +1’s to a few people (couples that are engaged, married, living together etc, or people who would not know anybody and are coming from far away)
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We figured out the number we wanted (100), which meant 25 people for FI’s family, my family, FI’s friends, and my friends. Fiance and I went over on our lists, but it was a great start.
Have you figured out your budget/venue limitations yet? That can make a huge difference.
Post # 9
Did you guys give a +1 to everyone? If I give some people +1 do I have to give them to these adult children or can I just invite them as a family? Is it even common to have a family invite if the kids are about 20 and 22? Like I said I don’t know them very well.
I guess I’m just overwhelmed, confussed on all of this and don’t want to hurt anyone feelings in the invitation process.
Post # 10
@patches: We did give plus 1 to everyone but we then retracted and only giving plus 1s to social units. our invites aren’t mailed so no one knows we changed our minds.