Who are you getting gifts for? What is standard protocol?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t know the etiquette on this subject, but I’m guessing there really isn’t one, since we are talking about gifts.

I am getting small gifts for my bridesmaids [maybe a tote bag with their name, a small piece of jewelry and a gift card or something].

For the guys, we’ll probably get a nice flask or shot glass set, and a gift card to places they like.

We aren’t getting elaborate gifts – the bms and gms won’t really have any expenses, just their time involved in the wedding. [We are paying for the attire, shoes, hair, makeup, everything].

We haven’t decided if we are getting our parents a gift, either. We are paying for most of the wedding ourselves, with minimal help from my mom [it was more of a donation, really. $300], and FMIL said she’d cover the flowers [about $250]. We may get them each a small gift, or something personalized, but we aren’t sure what yet.

I’ll also get my flower girl a small gift [maybe a toy?]

Post # 3
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Our photo package includes a few prints, so we will likely give each set of parents a frame with the promise of a picture to go in it. My parents are paying for more than half of the wedding, and his pledged an equal amount to our home downpayment, so we have a lot to say thank you for!

We do not have a ring bearer since but will do a small gift for each flower girl, maybe a necklace or something like that.

Post # 4
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Oh, and idk what standard protocol is, but I would either do something for both sets or neither set, especially if you’re doing gifts at the rehearsal or another public occasion.

Post # 5
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I got small gifts for my bridesmaids, and charm bracelets for the mothers. DH didn’t get his groomsmen anything.

Post # 6
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m still having issues coming up with an appropriate gift for our mothers. I was going to knit shawls, but I ran out of time. And now, I have NO idea what to get for them. Maybe I’ll get them earrings or something.

Post # 7
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We’re giving gifts to our 4 bridesmaids, 5 groomsmen, 3 readers, MC and both sets of parents. We don’t have a ring bearer/flower girl.

Where I’m from, the standard is to give something to everyone who helps out or takes part in the wedding day in some way. These aren’t HUGE gifts or anything, just tokens of appreciation – for example, our MC is getting a framed professional photo of his summer home which he’s obsessed with, the readers are getting gift cards – that sort of thing.

Post # 8
858 posts
Busy bee

We are getting my sister and no hand $100 to their fave salon for hosting my events. Bm’s, moh and sister a gift basket of home made organic beauty products, from masks to lip balm With a photo frame with an IOU for wedding pic! Getting my mom a basket with goodies, candles, perfume, spa gc and frame with IOU photo. Getting flower girl a little purse with jewelry and lip gloss!

we don’t have a ring bearer and aren’t getting all parents a gift. we will get them framed photos Re the wedding! 

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