Post # 1
Even though my wedding is over a year away, I can’t stop thinking about my brother not being there. Two years ago he passed away due to his blood sugar dropping while he was driving which caused him to have a head on collision with another car.
He was my only brother and I had always wanted him to walk me down the aisle (since I hadn’t talked to my father in over 15 years and my stepdad and I aren’t very close). My brother and I were very close, since he was only a few years older than me (I’m 26 and he would have been 32 this year).
As it gets closer to the wedding, it’s going to get harder and harder, not only for me but also my mom and sister.
I am going to make sure that he is remembered on our wedding day, which includes donating to JDRF (Juvenile Diabetes Research Fund) and having a vase of white roses with his name engraved on it (along with my FI grandmother who passed away last year) sitting at our guest book table. I just feel like nothing I do is going to be enough. Does anyone else feel that way?
I’m sure everyone has that one (or more) family member or friend that you are going to miss on your special day, who is it? What are you going to miss most? How were they going to be a part of your special day?
Sorry to all of those who have lost someone close to them. They are looking down on you and smiling each and every passing day, sending their love to you and remembering all the special times you had together.
Post # 3
wow, I am so sorry for your tragic loss.
Its so tough for most to face the reality that a loved one may not be attending their special day for such a horrible reason.
I myself have lost quite a few very close to me, the closest being my poppy (grandpa) he lived with us for many many years and I was his only grand daughter so we were very very close. he passed away to lung cancer quite a long time ago but it still pains me to think he will not be able to see his girl get married. My gran ended up giving me her engagement ring from him for me to have and I cherish it, with thta ring i feel he will be there with me
Post # 4
I’m so sorry for your loss. I will be missing my nephew, who passed away at the age of 14 (a year ago from this past May) from a stage 4 brain tumor. He had a heart of gold…. we will also do some type of a memorial candle or something to remember him (as well as our grandparents who have passed).
Post # 5
I am so sorry for you loss, and unfortunately I can say that I know exactly how you feel.
I am going to miss my only sister…she passed away 3 years ago from cancer. It’s been really hard planning a wedding without her support.
Post # 6
I am going to miss my Grandpa. He passed away several years ago. He was pretty special to me, and I know he and Mr.Rain would have gotten along so well 🙁
Post # 7
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I missed my Grandpa on my wedding day. I grew up spending a lot of time with my grandparents and I loved my Grandpa very much. He passed away 4 years ago, so I was thinking of him on the wedding day. My mom gave me a hanky that had been my Grandpa’s with "#1 Grandpa" embroidered on it. It was my special reminder of him on that day.
Post # 8
I missed my aunt who died of leukemia when I was in high school. We were close!
Post # 9
I’m so sorry for your loss. How awful.
I’ll miss my grandparents. They’ve all passed away except my grandmother. She lives in Utah, and is almost 90, so she won’t be making the trip.
Post # 10
I am so sorry for your loss.
I lost my oldest brother two years ago – sudden heart attack, no warning. My nephew, his eldest son, died suddenly this spring, at the age of 25. And I lost my dad eight years ago to cancer. So I know that as happy as my wedding day will be, there will be a deep undercurrent of sadness, too. I will be walking down the aisle with the groom … I couldn’t bear to be alone or to walk with anyone else.
Post # 11
aww i am so sorry for your loss. I am going to be missing my mom the most on my wedding day. She died 2 years ago of a massive stroke at the age of 52.
Post # 12
My mom died suddenly from a heart attack 5 1/2 years ago. I’m already missing her. And all of my grandparents are gone and my fiance only has one surviving grandfather, so we’ll be missing them as well.
Post # 13
I’m so sorry your brother won’t be there to walk you down the aisle. 🙁
I’ll be missing my mom’s parents (gramma and papa). They basically raised me. My Gramma was like my second mom and my Papa was the father figure in my life since my dad and I are NOT close (he might not even be invited to the wedding). I wanted Papa to walk me down the aisle.
I’m not sure how exactly we’ll honor them. But we’re doing charity favors like a bee or two mentioned (using little wooden coins as voting devices) and the American Cancer Society will be one of our charities since they both passed away from cancer.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
I’m so sorry to hear about your brother and that he wont be there to walk you down the aisle.
I am going to miss my grandparents. Although my dad’s mom will be at the wedding (and I REALLY excited she will) I’m sad that my mom’s parents and my dad’s dad wont be there, they all past away when I was younger.
Post # 15
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’m going to miss my uncle; he passed 10/13/08 after a long battle with ALS. The ‘anniversary’ is just a few days before our wedding but we had already booked 2 years in advance….I’m actually really worried that we all won’t be able to hold it together.
Post # 16
My daughter and my niece, both died way too young.