Post # 1
I’m just curious to find out what other bee’s are doing/have done. I’m inviting 123 guests and this includes family members and close friends of ours. I know some couples also invite coworkers, friends of their parents and even friends of friends. Where did you draw the line?
Post # 3
the only line we have is for like my cousins- if they have bf’s or gf’s, I dont think we are really inviting them. Unless they ask. I’d probably say yes.
I’m inviting my old co-workers from back up north, and asked my parents if there was anyone they wanted me to invite.
I’m kind of a “the more the merrier” type of person. Fiance is the same way. We love being surrounded by our family and friends.
ETA- at my last count of who I think will def show up, we had around 230 people
Post # 4
We invited family and close friends only. And we allowed each set of parents to invite one “friend” couple of their own. We hae been criticized for being stingy… but we’re footing the bill! We were also more focused on having our day be as intimate as possible. We ended up with an invite list of 80…
Post # 5
We don’t have a huge family on either side or tons of parents’ coworker’s girlfriends to invite, so we fortunately had a pretty flexible list. No one didn’t “get” to invite someone, and everyone got a plus one if they wanted, and we still are well within our budget! =] I think we just lucked out.
Post # 6
@KatieWink: This sounds like us. We are also paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves, so we are being more strict about who gets an invite.
Post # 7
We invited 110 guests, 90 are actually coming. I’d say 80% of our guests are family, 15% are close friends and the other 5% are our parents’ friends, the pastor and his wife, ect.
Post # 8
We’re planning for 135 seats. Of that, I would say about 60% is family or friends of family, about 30% is friends, and about 10% is coworker-friends.
There will probably be 3-4 SO’s that one or both of us has not met, but that should be it.
Post # 9
We’re inviting about 160ish, but that includes our great aunts/uncles, that we know aren’t going to come, but we had to invite them.
He is from Michigan, and all of my extended family is from Pennsylvania, and the wedding is in Charlotte, NC, so we know a lot of people aren’t going to come.
We (esp. me) had a hard time with work people. I was even asked by two people “am I going to be invited to your wedding?” The answer was no, but I couldn’t tell them that! I felt horrible and awkward. I think that when it came down to it, I was like “if we were out to dinner, would I pay for their meal?” If the answer was no, I didn’t invite them.
If one of our friends doesn’t have a bf/gf, we aren’t letting them just bring someone random. I’m not paying $100 dollars for that person to eat/drink. Sorry, just not going to do it.
So, I think the trickiest thing has been coworkers and +1s.
Post # 10
Well when I made the wedding list I included family first, then close friends which is about 10 of them in a 150 guest list. Then I included family friends that I had to invite. And then my mom started inviting random people like her sister in law’s friends that I have met twice and my step-dad’s boss because he has a lot of money and would probably give us a good gift and her friend’s daughter that is getting married in a few months and wants to get wedding ideas and my brother’s friends that I have no idea who they are.
I just wanted an intimate wedding but my mom is paying for the extra people and she said a wedding with less than 100 ppl looks too empty. I am just happy that I am marrying the man of my dreams.
Post # 11
Even the friends my parents invited are people that I have known as long as my parents and I’m very happy with having them at my wedding. They didn’t invite their coworkers or people I didn’t know at all.
Post # 12
We invited IMMEDIATE family only (parents, grandparents, and siblings) & close friends that we saw ATLEAST 1x a week…. Plus 1’s were reserved for Married & Engaged only (we don’t have any friends that live together that aren’t married) & no children
Our invite list came out to about 120 with 85 who RSVP’d yes & 65-70 total attendance.
Post # 13
@Kenic315: You sound exactly like me! My Fiance is from Michigan and my family is scattered all over. Our wedding is in Charlotte, because that’s where we both live. It’s hard to judge who will make the trip over here.
Post # 14
We weren’t comfortable having a bunch of people we didn’t know well at such a personal event, so we kept it small. Immediate family, the aunts/uncles and first cousins we were on speaking terms with (long story, much family drama), our closest friends, and our parents’ closest friends. No +1s for anyone not in a relationship. We had 50 guests total on the day.
Post # 15
We’re having close family, and a few friends, and then I’m inviting some of my coworkers. We spend more time together than I do with any of my “friends,” and we’re all pretty close. I wish we could keep it smaller, but it’ll end up being almost 150 invites. 🙁
Post # 16
Immediate family (parents, siblings), aunts and uncles on my dad’s side, paternal grandparents and a handful of very close friends. Our number is 30 total, including ourselves.