Post # 1
I just bought my dress yesterday — first store, third dress I tried on!! I came in with a REALLY clear idea of what I wanted (years of looking at dresses + showing FI dresses I liked and getting a solid feel for his tastes = I knew exactly what I was looking for). It’s so gorgeous, and the salon I went to was amazing and let us take tons of photos, so I can’t stop looking at it and getting excited.
The problem is, now I want to show my FI! Like, a lot. We’re constantly sharing everything with each other, so it’s really hard to keep this a secret. And I really think he’s going to love it, so of course I want to show him now! FI thinks this is hilarious, like some sort of cosmic payback for him having to keep the proposal/ring a secret for a few months. But I’m going crazy! So, as a way of diffusing wedding dress energy and instead of showing FI the dress, I want to show everyone else (friends, family, etc)… but I sort of think I shouldn’t! 1) to keep it a surprise for people, 2) to make sure word doesn’t get back to FI, and 3) I have a sneaking suspicion other people aren’t QUITE as excited as I am for my wedding dress haha 😉
So, my question for you all: who did you show your wedding dress to before the wedding? Family? Bridesmaids? Friends? Coworkers? Grandparents? Future in-laws? Maybe even your FI? What was your reasoning for sharing (or not sharing), & do you regret showing it to people before the wedding?
And also: when does the desire to stare at your dress instead of doing, y’know, actual work finally dissipate?!
Post # 2
Haha, I feel you! But I say, if you he wasn’t there when you bought it, just don’t show him! I showed my mom, sister, and people who weren’t coming to the wedding but wanted to see it. My best friend was there when I bought it. I mean, the people who weren’t coming and saw the dress were people I’m close to, not just random people haha.
I don’t know when you’ll stop staring at your dress…for me, I would be obsessed for a day or two, move on to other things and then a few days later start obsessing again. Eventually I got tired of looking at the same handful of pics so I wouldn’t obsess for a couple months at a time. Then…alterations happened…and the obsession was back haha!
Post # 3
LoveMyBrit: I showed my girls, moms and one aunt my dress. However it was on the hanger since the sample size was wayy too small. <br /><br />
Once my dress comes in I plan on only having my Mom, FMIL and MOHs see the dress. Also because I know I won’t be able to wait for my mom to get in town and everyone is out of state, I’ll probably bring a local friend with me once it comes in.
Also fun fact I mistakenly almost showed my FI the stock photo of my dress! Thankfully he freaked out more than I did! I kept my coo land just covered my phone with my hand. He spazzed and asked if that was my dress. He claims all he saw was a white dress lol
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I show everyone who asks about it! haha I don’t really care if he sees it or not… but I’m guessing i’d get a backlash from family if they knew he saw it so i’m not showing im.
Post # 5
LoveMyBrit: My sisters and mom were there when I bought it. Besides that, I shared it with the rest of my bridesmaids and close family and friends. I’m not concerned about it getting back to FI because even if someone described it, he’d still have NO idea about what to visualize. I did have to make a point to tell his mother not to show him.
Honestly, even if you DID show your FI a picture of it, I highly doubt he’d remember clearly enough on the big day.
Post # 6
Only 2 people (and a half lol) have seen my dress. I want everyone to oooh and ahhh. lol
Post # 7
I’ve shown pictures to my best friends and some female family members. So far my mom, MOH, FMIL, and FSIL are the only ones who have seen it in real life. I don’t want to show anyone else though, because like you said, I want them to be surprised!
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
LoveMyBrit: When I went shopping for my dress my mom, FMIL, aunt, MOH, and BM were there. When I got my dress FSIL went with me to pick it up. I probably showed my co-worker just because I would stare at it a lot at work lol. My mom showed my dad which I wasn’t thrilled about…. My seamstress obviously and I showed my photographer when she asked.
Post # 9
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
LoveMyBrit: I showed prettymuch anyone who asks, but not my fiance. He doesn’t ask or want to know.
Post # 10
I’m not particularly traditional about these things, so I’ll probably end up showing my fiance. I was going to make him take me dress shopping (and he was totally up for it) since my MOH is an out-of-towner, but then I discovered one of my local friends is also getting married soon so we’re going shopping together. I’ll probably show my close friends/family if they ask. I figure they’ll still be surprised/impressed when they see me with the full hair and makeup experience, so why not show off my gorgeous dress?
Post # 11
I’ve shown anyone who asked, lol. Including my fiancee, but that’s me, everyone is different
Post # 12
I showed only my mother and my MIL and FIL (because my MIL was helping to alter the dress). I had a small wedding, so I wanted it to be a surprise for people who might in a larger wedding be surprised. My dress was also nontraditional, so it was really important to me to keep that a secret.
Post # 13
The only people who’ve seen my dress in person are my mom and grandma. My MOH has seen a picture of me in it. Technically lots of people have seen it though because it was my mom’s wedding dress, but I’m not showing anyone else what it looks like with me wearing it
Post # 14
I will show anyone who wants to see it…with the exception of my FI. I only have one person in my city that will be in the wedding and she came with me to buy it, but I’ve sent pictures to my mom, his mom, my sister, and the other bridesmaids. I even showed my boss at work because she asked when I said I’d already bought one.
As far as telling the FI…it’s practically turned into a game now. He doesn’t want to see and I don’t want to show him, so we’re competing to come up with the most ridiculous descriptions of the dress. We’ve got a dry-erase board in the kitchen with “WE’RE GETTING MARRIED IN _(296 at this point)___DAYS!” on it and a picture of a bride & groom. Every day or two one of us will use dry-erase markers to draw on ridiculous wedding outfits….right now, it’s a picture of a groom in a kilt and sleeveless tuxedo t-shirt and a bride in a hot pink ballgown so poofy it takes up 1/2 the board.
Post # 15
I bought dresses online to try on and returned the ones that didn’t work out. Before I returned them, I had a little reveal party with my friends, so they have seen the dress. FI wants the dress to be a surprise, so he’s not looking. I’m reluctant to show the dress to my mom because she will likely criticize it and give other suggestions.