Who are you sitting with?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Who will be/was at your table at your wedding reception?
    Just me and my FI : (71 votes)
    46 %
    Our parents/family : (17 votes)
    11 %
    The bridal party only : (41 votes)
    26 %
    The bridal party and their SOs : (11 votes)
    7 %
    The bridal party, their SOs, and their kids : (5 votes)
    3 %
    The bridal party, their SOs, and other friends : (0 votes)
    Other- explain if you feel like it! : (10 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    32 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Ny fiance and I really wanted to sit with our families and not lord over the reception serfdom. But in my situation my mom’s side of the family are scattered all over the US and international and they haven’t seen each other in years, so as much as I would like to be sitting with my parents I want my mom to be able to catch up with her family so I’m seating them together. And so we must lord over the reception serfdom at our own table.

    Post # 4
    2992 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We are not sitting at all as we are having a simple reception of light refreshments and cake after the wedding. And there will be no formal seating at the day-after pig roast.

    Post # 5
    1560 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @SleepyBee99:  I hate when the whole BP is sat together, especially since almost all of my BM’s are from out of town, so none of their husbands wouldbe sitting with them. So these poor guys will be sitting at a table with people they don’t know after they just traveled from the other side of the country (and some world!!!) to attend our wedding. Nope, we’re having a sweetheart table and the BP is sitting with their dates!

    Post # 6
    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Our wedding is tiny — only 14 of us. So we’re all going to sit at one big table. I imainge I’ll fit next to FI, but I haven’t planned any further than that 🙂

    Post # 7
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I was very happy with our choice to do a sweetheart table.  I feel like traditional head tables just get too complicated.  I don’t want to separate my bridal party from their SO’s, that just seems weird.  My parents are still together, as are DH’s, but what about people with divorced parents?  Plus, both sets of parents plus both sides of the bridal party = huge table. 

    It was nice to get some time to ourselves for a few minutes during dinner, and then we mingled with everyone so much that it certainly wasn’t like we were isolated from our guests for the rest of the evening; I don’t think we sat down at all other than when we were actually eating dinner and then during (brief) speeches. 

    Post # 9
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Every wedding I’ve been to (probably 20+) the bride and groom sit with just their wedding party and that’s what we’ll be doing. We’re having 6-7 bridesmaids/groomsmen each so it’ll be up to 16 of us at a long table. 

    Post # 11
    2056 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I am not a fan of the head tables where you look out at everyone else.  But, our venue coordinator suggested doing a ginormous head table including our wedding party and their dates… we have 12 people in the wedding party (not counting us) so when you add in spouses, we will have a 22-person table!  It will be a giant oval.  I think it will be fun; I’m looking forward to seeing how it works out.


    I was in a wedding in June where the bride and groom sat the wedding party with dates over two tables, and they sat at one of the tables.


    ETA– our parents are sitting with their siblings.


    Post # 12
    39 posts
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We plan to sit with our mothers/grandmothers and their spouses/dates. 


    Post # 13
    1169 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’m not sure yet. I prefer us and our bridal party + their dates. However, if space doesn’t work for that, we’ll do just us. I would never split the bridal party up from their dates though because it really makes me mad when it happens to me! 

    Post # 14
    8850 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    We had a sweeetheart table with a few extra chairs. It was so nice to just sit with him for a few minutes in the midst of the craziness. A bunch of people came over to sit in the spare chairs and chatted. But a few people were like, “You’re all alone?!” All in all, we liked it.

    Post # 15
    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Just my FH and I, we are going to have a sweetheart table. It gives us a chance to take in the view of our guests and the venue. A bonus is that we get to spend that QT together!

    Post # 16
    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @SleepyBee99:  I dislike head tables, so it was not a big decision for us. As PPs have said, I’m not a fan of separating my BP from their guests. I’d be pissed if I couldn’t sit with my date as a BM. DH & I had a sweetheart table and loved it. It’s a hectic day and you’re constantly talking to other people and being pulled in 5678943242 directions. So, even though it’s a day about the two of you, you and your FI will not have much QT. It was awesome to have some alone time in the midst of all the craziness. It was really nice to just sit back and relax with him for a minute and enjoy being married without being interrupted.

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