Post # 1
I keep asking my fiance what he thinks. What about this cake/escort card/first dance song? He almost always chooses my least favorite option! Anyone else keep making the mistake of asking when you have no intention of listening? I want to involve him, but I really want him to confirm my choices. 🙂
Post # 3
I only give my Fiance choices that I like. That way I am not disappointed or having to try to point him in a different direction.
For instance, today I found a 5 peice band that I really really love. I have already decided to get them, but I wanted my Fiance to feel like he was a part of the decision making process, so when he got home today I brought up their website and played some of the sample music to him and asked him what he thought about having them play for our reception. He loved them and loved the fact that I asked him, so we were both happy.
The key is to give them a choice, but limit the choices, so that the choices come out in your favor
Post # 5
I do this too! I even make inspiration boards for him to look over and pick. But the truth is, I’d be happy with any of them. Of course, I do the research for hours on end, put it together on board. then he picks what he likes and says “That was easy.” Well yeah, ’cause I did all the work. Oh well, he helps me a lot in other areas so I am not complaining.
Post # 6
Actually my fiance and I are so similar in our wedding tastes that we rarely have issues like this. When we do we scale it on how important it is to each of us. It sometimes helps to rate it on a scale of 1-10. The big thing we don’t agree on is that my fiance wants to wear a sword in our ceremony and I don’t want him to. We’re yet to put that in numbers yet though but logically the tradition he is taking this form doesn’t apply to us as the sword wouldn’t be coming from my father. By the way it probably also helps that my fiance and I have been talking about getting married for about 4yrs, engaged for 3.