Who brought up marriage first and when?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@VikingPrincess:  My husband brought it up first, when we initially started talking (we were just friends at this point).  However, I was in the “I’m never getting married” camp while he really wanted marriage, but after spending a week with him I realized I could marry him.  We moved in together after dating long distance for 7 or 8 weeks, talked about getting married to each other a few weeks after that, and he purchased the ring after 2 years.  Our engagement was delayed due to illness in the family.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My husband brought it up first about 6 months into our relationship. We weren’t living together at the time.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My DH and I started dating when we were 15. When we were about 17 he brought it up. He said he had a dream that we were getting married, but I think he totally made it up just to feel me out and to see how I’d respond to the idea. We weren’t living together and didn’t get our own place together until we were 19. Married at 27.

 

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

My husband brought it up not three months after we met in person.  I didn’t actually say yes until two years later.  We actually met online since we both worked from home and it started as someone to chit chat with.  We met and moved in together within a few weeks, marriage was brought up quick.  Now we’ve been married for four years.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

He brought it up first. We had been living together for 3 years and dating for about 4 years. Of course, he opened the flood gates with that one and I didn’t stop bringing up until he proposed a year and a half later. 😉

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@VikingPrincess:  Since we started dating I knew we’d be together forever, but we didn’t seriously talk marriage until last year. He brought it up and told me we can financially get engaged and married without incurring debt and asked what my thoughts were. We had been together for 5 years when he first brought it up as a serious possibility, we got engaged this year (after 6 years of dating).

For us, we always knew we wanted to spend forever with one another, but we had other priorities than marriage up until now.

ETA: We lived together. We’ve actually lived together (with the exception of a few months long distance) the entire time we’ve been dating.

 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We never really talked about it. We both went into the relationship knowing that it was forever. That meant that even if we never got married, we were staying together.

 

My husband proposed to me seven months after we started dating, which was four months after I moved in.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

FI definitely brought it up as a serious, let’s-talk-about-this-for-real topic, first.  It took him about 2 years to convince me to let him propose (I’m not all that into the wedding thing – marriage sure, but planning a wedding, no). 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

VikingPrincess

my DH brought it up the crazy drunken night we met lol. he told me he wanted to marry me and i didnt remember but told people we were going to have little christain babies. yeah a little embarressing to hear that but thats all the truth. we didnt start dating till a month after and he had always told me he was going to marry me, he also said i love you first. he had told me that if i got prego he would marry me or if i really wanted to get married he would. i wasnt sure i loved him till maybe three months after he offically told me he did (even though my drunkeness said other wise the first night) . i didnt want him to marry me just because i wanted to or that i was prego. he had a college girlfriend ask him and he said yes just because he felt pressured into it (they broke up before they did) . so it was important for me to have him want to marry me. we moved in at year 2. it was year 5 that i decided i actually wanted to get married, or that i was ready. year 6 and a half he asked me.  it wasnt till year 7 when we actually did get married. this year!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

He brought it up first! We’d been dating about 6 months, and he wanted to know what my “timeline” for marriage and kids was!

He never told me his, but apparently they were compatible!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

Marriage was probably brought up several years into our relationship.  I never dreamed about the white wedding and all that jazz, so it was never on my mind.  I like to go with the flow.  I think my now husband brought up having kids first and I said wait a min, not until u put a ring on it!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I honestly don’t recall, it came up in conversation in the first month or two, basically just finding out if we wanted the same thing.  When he was over at my place shortly afterwards, I turned on my tablet to a website I’d been reading about marriage and I was pretty embarassed!  His reaction, hugging and kissing me… so cute 🙂 

When we started seriously talking about living together, we had some discussions about expectations and where we as a couple were headed and both agreed that living together was a precursor to taking the step towards engagement/marriage.  Also that we didn’t want to live together without some further commitment for long.  After living together for 6 months, he proposed.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

We are both previously divorced and had been together about 5 years, living together for 4 years. I thought he was totally against getting remarried (been there, done that). We were getting ready to go to my younger cousin’s wedding and I asked him if he would ever consider marrying me, if it was in our future (I wanted to, but it wasn’t a dealbreaker). He said he’d been thinking about it more and realized I was the one he should’ve waited for in the first place. We were engaged about 2 months later. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

He brought it up first (: We were 17 and had been dating for one month aha. He said he wanted to be with me forever and that one day he wanted to marry me. I felt the exact same day (: Looking back, I can’t believe we were so trusting and planning marriage and stuff so soon and so young, but I’m glad that we were so uninhibited and honest with each other all the time.

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