Post # 1
I’m very conflicted with this particular issue because one of my flower girls has her dress because her mom bought it. I’m on a tight budget and I don’t know if I can afford the other two dresses. Would it be rude to ask their moms to buy it?
Post # 3
it’s usually their moms that buy them.
Post # 4
@kitzy: I think the main reason I was conflicted about it was because when I was a flower girl the bride’s mom made my dress.
Post # 5
I think it’s standard that the family pays for the dress, in the same way that the bridesmaid will pay for the dress. We’re having my future sister in law’s daugthers involved in our wedding and because they’re pretty financially strapped, we’re paying. But I think that’s more of an exception than the rule.
Post # 6
I think it’s nice to pay for things when you can. If you’re on a tight budget, I’d have the moms buy the dress (just don’t pick out an overpriced dress). I think moms paying for FG dresses is common practice.
Post # 7
I paid for mine but that is not the norm. However, with the flower girls parents paying I would not pick an expensive dress and if you don’t care, maybe let them pick the dress or at least pick between a few.
Post # 8
We have four flower girls, two kids of my youngest sister and two kids of FI’s youngest brother. FI’s brother is in a better place financially than my sister, so his brother is buying both of their dresses, and I’m buying one of the dresses for my sister (who is having to buy a BM dress, and who travelled to NM for my shower, and who will be throwing me another party the week of the wedding) and she’ll buy one.
Oh, and I let FSIL pick out the dresses. I asked her to keep them under $50, and the ones she picked were $63. I think she really wanted to pick more expensive ones, but I didn’t want my sister to have to spend any more than absolutely necessary.
Post # 9
Most mothers of the flower girl are so excited that their daughters are flower girls that they always buy the dress. Let the mothers choose the dress though so that way they can determine how much to spend