Post # 1
I always just assumed that the bride/groom decided which readings would be used during the ceremony, especially if (like me) you’re writing the entire ceremony text. However, I asked my fiance if he had anyone on his side who he’d like to do a reading, and then asked if he’d be picking something out or if he’d prefer I do it. And he looked at me like I was absolutely nuts. He did a reading in a friend’s wedding several years ago, chose his own reading, and just got approval from the couple.
Am I overstepping some unwritten rule by choosing things for people to read?
Post # 3
My FI & I chose our readings but I definitely would have also felt comfortable having our readers choose their own with our approval. Because honestly, our readers probably know the bible better than we both do, and would have found something they thought was appropriate and sweet to read for us.
Now I kind of feel strange that we picked our own out. I didn’t know that the readers could choose! Silly me.
Post # 4
My Dad will be doing a religious reading for our ceremony. He is picking it out himself without any input from us. He knows the context of the ceremony (building a strong foundation, love, etc) and we completely trust his judgement.
I think it’s nice if you feel comfortable letting the person pick out the reading if they have a desire to.
Post # 5
@Miss Stephanie – It just totally never dawned on me that choosing the readings would be done by someone other than the couple! Apparently I’ve read too many posts about brides struggling to find the perfect readings 🙂