- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
Bridal party, parents are a for sure. Then if you have any out of town relatives it is nice to include them. And I think it is nice to send an invite to the officant.
This is who we are including but also including some of our mom’s friends that have helped with the wedding tasks.
My FI and I were just talking about this last night…I agree with vintage2010 on her suggestions. I told FI that we had to have officiant, bridal party members and spouses, along with parents and brothers/sisters. Anyone else is up in the air.
^^^ Agreed. We’re doing the same with the officiant and his wife. It’s about 18 people total, juuuust perfect 🙂
The bridal party should be invited including parents. We also invited relatives who came from out of state.
We’re planning on doing the bridal party plus any longtime significant others. Definitely our pastor and his wife. Our parents and siblings(who are in the wedding anyways). We’re definitely going to include grandparents, and possibly godparents. We aren’t going to do aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.
But if we were to start inviting out of town guests, it would be pretty much everyone that would be at the reception the next night…I’d say over 3/4 of our guests are from out of town!
We’re going to have our bridal party with their spouses or bf or gf, parents, and grandparents. Because we have a lot of out of town guests, we’re going to do a pre wedding celebration the night before with everyone from out of town. Our rehearsal dinner will actually be 2 days before the wedding instead of 1 day.
Ugh! We could easily have an 80 person rehearsal dinner. But I think we’re keeping it to wedding party + dates + only like 5 VIP OOTers.
We’re going to have just us, our parents, the bridal party + significant others, our grandparents, and just aunts/uncles (no great-aunts, cousins, etc). So, we’ll have about 32 people
It’s up to you. In my family, we typically have the bridal party, everyone involved in the wedding, and all the extended family that make it into town. My FI was used to just the bridal party and wedding participants and immediate family. We are having a big rehearsal dinner – it’s pushing 40 already, and we only have 45 RSPVs so far! (a lot on the RH have not actually returned the RSVP cards yet, but we know they are coming))
Do the officiants typically go to the rehearsal dinner afterwards? Our officiant is someone who specializes in weddings and isn’t really a minister per se or someone we knew beforehand. I doubt he would come, so would it be a faux pas if I didn’t even invite him?
As I understand it, in addition to you and FI it’s:
1. Bride’s Parents
2. Groom’s Parents
3. Bride’s Siblings (if you want)
4. Groom’s Siblings (if he wants)
5. Bridesmaids & MOH
6. Groomsmen & BM
7. Flower Girl & Parents (if you have one)
8. Ring Bearer & Parents (if you have one)
Some people also include some close friends, grandparents, etc. My grandfather and his wife will most likely be at ours, but he’s our officiant so 🙂
Ours will be
wedding party w/ their dates + our parents + Flower girl, ring bearer & their parents
We’re leaving out OOT guess, but we don’t have many at all and I prefer rehearsal dinners that are small. I really liked the idea of having an event with our closest friends and family only.
In general, there are a lot of different ways you can do it. My FILs wanted to host ours, so I made sure to talk to them about who they expected to have invited.
UGH! mine is going to be huge! My FMIL is planning it (which I really appreciate, dont get me wrong) however she is having a hard time with the fact that she is not in charge of planning our wedding. I gave her the people of the wedding party and that was it for me and my FI and my family’s portion. She has ballooned that number of 14 to over 50 guests. At one point my FI suggested to her that if we were going to have that many people we may as well get married that night since everyone will be there!
There are many different routes you can take with this one.
1. only invite people directly involved in wedding and their sig others
2. #1 plus out of towners
3. #1-2 and family
it really is up to you/the person that is planning it
FMIL really wanted to invite our out of towners, but we put our foot down. That’s almost everybody invited to the wedding!
We have settled on just our immediate families, grandparents, and wedding party. Since the wedding party is almost entirely family, we’re talking 14 or 15 people!
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