(Closed) Who considers themselves an 'offbeat bride'? Why?

posted 5 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LostInWonderland:  I would consider myself offbeat because I’m not really interested in having a wedding. Lol, I canceled our original plans because the process of planning was making me miserable! So now it’s looking like just a short ceremony and a meal for 25 people. I don’t care about flowers, decor, seating charts, invitations, etc. 

ETA: The amount of money it was costing vs the amount we actually have was also a big factor.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I definitely am. I am having my third wedding and we are doing a Victorian theme. No limos, no receiving lines, no big reception. No escort cards, no DJ, no dancing and we are requesting NO GIFTS. Instead we are having a pig roast the next day. I am not wearing a traditional bridal gown, a Victorian tea hat instead of a veil and my BMs are not wearing traditional BM dresses either. No flower girl or ring bearer and our ceremony will be a mix of Pagan and Native American. Oh yeah, I am in my 40s, and an old hippie. I am as offbeat as a bride can get!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would consider myself offbeat, soley because traditional weddings are not really me. I really don’t want to do the traditional white wedding dress, we aren’t having a wedding party at all and we aren’t getting married in a church, which is the norm in my group of friends. 

Our venue is the Public Museum, which is super unique (they only do about 8 weddings a year) and the main exhibit we are having everything in is Milwaukee streets set among Victorian times, so we are doing things with a touch of Steampunk too. Heck, my best friend is an amazing cake designer and is doing something special for us and I won’t know what it looks like until the day of because she’s so excited about doing a steampunk-ish type cake! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Hmmmmm…. ish? I’m doing half traditional/half quirky. Basically, my personality.

We’re having the church and the nice dinner and all that kind of stuff, but everything else I want a little different. I don’t like rose petals, or ivory waistcoats, or giant floral centrepieces and mirrors. I just like.. a hint of something else.

My wedding will definitely not be ‘offbeat’ as some of the ones I have seen, but different enough that our guest will go “huh, cool” at some elements.

I hope.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I did nothing traditional.  We eloped by ourselves to a city we never visited before and he helped me put on my dress.  We had the priest and the photog as our witnesses.  I bought my dress off once wed and wore Converse.  I also did not wear a veil.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I pretty much do everything my own way in general in life!  I wasn’t even into the wedding, having people look at me and trying to coordinate everything.  It was a lot of family drama, disappointments in them, stress!  We ended up having a wedding with just us.  I did my own hair, have never worn makeup, and we just improvised our vows (and that was the ceremony!)  It was perfect for us.  Of course I sported my Amsale, one I found that I have never seen anyone else wearing.  I am funny though, I like to have something in the bag before I celebrate it- if that makes sense, so deep down I will be more apt to celebrate a big anniversary than a wedding- but that is just me!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@deetroitwhat:  That’s awesome, sounds a lot like what we did!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cbee:  We seriously did a lot of stuff for the same reasons.  I did NOT want a bunch of people looking at me.  It was still important to me to have a nice dress.  It was from once wed but never worn w/tags.  A J Crew dress I was going ot buy full price, but I kept stalking the website until someone posted one in my size 🙂  I bought a sash off Etsy, too.  I don’t think I much looked like an offbeat bride…

A lot of people were pissed.  But they got over it lol.

ETA I always joke we just need to celebrate our big anniversaries… like 5 10, etc.  Sounds like a lot of work every year otherwise haha.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LostInWonderland:  Lol yeah I probably seem like an oximoron but I still love weddings, and looking at other people’s concepts…just had a miserable time on my own. But I definitely grew to love the boards (especially the elopement section) so I’m always browsing for fun threads. Viva la offbeat bride indeed!

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Offbeat bride here.

I’ll be doning an ivory dress for the ceremony but I’ll be changing into a cute little black dress with a black veil 🙂

Our theme is Amor Eterno- Dia de los Muertos.  There will be lots of black and white and SKULLS.  But this is most def us all year round 🙂

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d say I’m relatively offbeat, but still keeping with a few traditions. I like a nice balance.

I’m not a very showy, overly girly, flashy, over the top person, and neither is my fiance. In fact, my fiance hates crowds. But my family is HUGE, so he’s being a trooper when it comes to the size of the guest list. lol

But what I mean is that I didn’t want huge flower arrangements, pink ribbons and bows, sparkles, limos, doves, ice sculptures, strolling violins, or super-formal reception, super serious, event. I want it to be fun and meaningful, both most importantly, a reflection of me and my fiance.

For example, our friends set us up on a blind date based on the fact that we are both big Pittsburgh Penguin hockey fans. Our colors will be shades of blue, based on the Pens’ original jerseys from the 60’s.

And while I’m not the biggest fan of over the top theme weddings, our wedding WILL have a penguin motiff to it. Part of it will be hockey, but part of it will also reference the penguin as an animal because of the whole ‘mating for life” thing and the quote from March of the Penguins about “love in the harshest place on earth” because my fiance and I have been through hell and back over the last 5 years with family issues, job issues, money issues, death, sickness, etc.

Here are some elements we are using:


this logo will be everywhere — our invites, maybe napkins, etc.


this is our serving set

 

 

 


our cake toppers

We will also be ordering a custom Penguins jersey with our last name and wedding date on it and the guests will sign that instead of a guest book. Then we’ll frame it and be able to hang it in our home.

My good friend and BM is a graphic designer and she’s making our table numbers look like hockey jerseys and we’ll have them named/numbered after popular past and present players for the Pens.

Oh and our ceremony is taking place at an old, restored theater.

So while these are all “off beat” things, we will still include traditions like me walking down the aisle with my parents, cutting the cake together, first dance, father/daughter dance, garter and bouquet toss, and, a tradition that is very near and dear to my heart as a Polish/Croatian/Slovak girl, the bridal dance. 

I think being from Pittsburgh also makes me untraditional, on these boards, apparently. lol
Where I’m from we don’t fuss over the plates, table cloths, or silverware. EVERYONE has a buffet, even if you’re wealthy. All the women take their shoes off to dance at the reception and it’s not considered unsanitary or trashy. We include our registry information with the shower invites and that’s totally acceptable. Our receptions are in fire halls and no one blinks an eye.

Oh and my favorite Pittsburgh “off beat” tradition is the cookie table! In adition to cake, we have HUNDREDS of cookies available all throughout the reception. Most of the time they are all home made by the bride and groom’s family and it’s AMAZING!

Crap, I was trying to share an e-pic that went with our hockey theme but it keeps telling me the files are too large and I don’t know how to resize them ….

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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